Hi Bmck, such a difficult and painful situation!  Don't worry about what to say, though.  The fact that you are there with your Grandad is the most important thing.  If you really feel stuck for words, you can just say that you don't know what to say- you're Grandad will understand (after all, what is there to say, really?)  Don't be afraid to just listen, too.  I think there's a perception that friends and family members of someone with cancer should have the right words to make everything better, but I think what people really need at that time is for someone to listen while they process their own emotions.  Allow your Grandad to talk while you share a cup of tea or a beer with him, and he'll feel really validated and cared for.  I wish the best of luck to you both.  Emily ... View more