Hi Jaquie   My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in November 2017... you are not alone 🌻 His diagnosis has totally changed both our lives and it’s taken us a while to accept that this is how it is now and that things can change at any time. Counselling is offered by the Cancer Council, I believe either in person or by phone. There is often access to a psychologist in his chemo team so it might be useful asking at his next chemo session. It’s good that you are seeking help and I really hope it helps you both. It must be so hard trying to help your husband deal with his depression while trying to cope with your own emotions and concerns. Take care and keep in touch.   ... View more

Hi Dewsbu.....I was so sad to hear your story cause I know how heartbroken and scared you  both must be. It’s a terrible shock to be given news like this....I was numb.  I also cried a lot.  You’ve got a hard path ahead of you so if you ever want to talk, I’ll be here.  Look to your friends and family for support, don’t be afraid to ask or let them know how you are feeling.  My husband and I were keen travellers and had so many hopes for a long retirement together but now we just take it day by day. We’ve had a couple of short stays locally and in Sydney, both ended up with hospital admissions with high temperatures....we joke about me knowing all of the hospitals between Sydney and Newcastle. Things are more stable now and we do what we can, when we can. I so hope you two get to Uluru but if not, find things that you can do together...we spend a lot of time on the couch watching movies or series and when hubby has good energy we go out for lunch.  You take care and please keep in touch 🌻 ... View more

Hi Jamie-lee....thanks for sharing with us...it’s such a shock when you hear the diagnosis and everything then happens so fast...and yes,  your life changes and it is hard to plan and it’s heartbreaking to see the person you love going through treatment.  Your new life develops and you adapt and you do different things together, you take pleasure where you can and you focus on each day, just as you two are doing. I’m sending lots of positive thoughts your way...take care 🌻 ... View more

Thanks KellyM...I so appreciate you taking the time to reply. I feel so sad for your mum n dad....hug your mum and let your dad know that he won’t be lonely ...can you get him hooked up to a men’s shed or something similar.? Meals on wheels?  Apart from coping with supporting my husband is my fear of being lonely scares me. I’ve got friends and family but they have their own life....like your dad, I’m going to have to cope with losing my best friend and then how to live by myself...thank you so much for your encouragement ... View more