Hi @Gloria, how are you travelling today?   I am very glad you have your pup for company!    Regarding your husband, was he like this before the cancer? Has there been any sign of it spreading into his brain by any chance? or has this been looked at?   I was just reading this page by the Ocular Melanoma Foundation (based in the USA). It mentions the liver as being the most common site for the cancer to spread, but after this it says that the brain (along with bones and lungs) are the next common. If it isn't on the radar, may I suggest you ask at his next oncologist's visit?   We're an Australian organisation, so the resources below are Australian but I think will still help you somewhat as cancer, emotions and relationships,  are definitely universal: Understanding Melanoma Emotions and cancer Caring for someone with cancer Podcast: Family Dynamics and cancer - I think this one would be good to listen to. Podcast: Cancer affects the carer too Let us know how you get on    ... View more