Hi Louisa, Thank you for your reply. With mum getting worse by the day, I am also grieving for her impending loss. We have a great relationship, my MIL & I. You are right to sense that I have been upset by other things. Mostly, it's from the friction that I have with my husband's siblings who live there. They have been fairly nasty to me in the past, to the point that I have avoided going there for about 8 months last year. My fear is that I know how much my husband wants to move there, even after mum is gone. He worries that his sister will be in the house on her own (even if their brother lives down the road). My SIL has been living with her mother for years (decades). I am afraid that our marriage will not have a chance if we move there. Anyway, I have done some more research & thought about things in length. You are correct to advise that now is not a good time to make any big decisions. My husband really needs me now more than ever. I still love him as much as I did when we married. In my despair, I felt that the trust that I had lost in him to do what was right for me - by respecting my decision & need to return home without all the anger, threats, intimidation, etc. - had meant that our marriage was over. In the last couple of days, I have found hope that it's possible to learn to trust him again & forgive & forget this first major crisis that we are going through. Simply because I know we both still love each other & our children, & we want to be together. Grief of this magnitude is something new to me. This is why I came here in hope that this community can open my mind & heart to understand the difficulties that you all endure. I have read some posts & am so humbled, sad but at the same time amazed at all your strength & courage. It makes my crisis seem rather small & self-centred. Please accept my apology if I came across as insensitive. God bless & thank you for helping me with your thoughts. Shirley ... View more