Having a partner with cancer is like no other situation, because usually if something traumatic happens you turn to your partner for support. I can recommend searching the internet for a partner support network/forum that fits your demographic, you will find support there from people who really understand, even if it's just internet based. Even though my husband has been in remission for 7 years (stage 4 non-hodgkin's lymphoma) I've been a member of a 'wives of husbands with cancer' facebook group since the start of this year, and it's been really helpful and affirming. I wish I'd found is when he was going through chemo! I can ask questions unique to my situation and get feedback from people in the same situation, which is great (it's great to know you're not going crazy, this is normal for the circumstances!) The Cancer Council may even be able to point you to a real life support group, it's definitely worthwhile asking. I guess the bottom line is you're not alone, there are people you can talk to who understand (including right here in this forum!) I don't want to give you advice about planning for the future, because we are in different situations with different resources, opportunities and expectations, (I'm a 42 year old woman and have been married for 14 years) but I wish you both good luck. You are not alone. love and hugs, Emily
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