Hi, Lovelost, it sounds like you are in a difficult place right now. You have a long list of responsibilities and they sound like insurmountable obstacles: but are they? The big mortgage - could you down-size? And why are the adult children a responsibility? Look closely at the list of things you feel are vital and maybe re-think the big picture. I have a 39 year old son who has incurable renal cell carcinoma, and I would give anything to watch him tinkering with projects and enjoying life again. His father and grandparents are all passed on. There won't be any children or devoted partner for him, no nice super buffer or savings fund. Just me and some loved ones. You may be right about your partner's attitude of course. But cancer has a long shadow and you have to keep loving the person who is in that shadow. Hope you can sort it all out, my best wishes to you.
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Hi there, I just joined this forum yesterday after my younger son was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 renal cancer. I talked to an old friend whose husband has been fighting kidney cancer for over 2 years. Some comfort I was given includes: there are many immuno therapies to use against the disease. There are many good doctors too. Secondly, if they don't know much about your specific problem then you have to be proactive and read as much as you can. You'll find a lot of info online, some good some not, and the more you investigate, the better because when the doctor asks you for agreement to use a certain plan, you are better prepared. My philosphy - if it's any use - comes from an old writer who said "to live better, think of each day as a life in itself" because then it can seem longer and richer. Material things lose their value straight away. The website https://oncologynews.com.au has an article on "Research review underscores progress in treating kidney cancer..." - be proactive, there are others out there feeling just like you, dear.
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