Hello,   I understand how this may be frustrating for you and the other individuals involved but unfortunately in this current period of time, all you really can do is offer advice/options to your sister and respect your sister's current wishes.   Perhaps you can suggest about creating some form of kit? Which contains all the necessary documentation, files, contact details and general information. That the daughter will need, when the time becomes suitable for her to receive it? (Based upon the mother's wishes).   You can still gather the information and have everything in place, without needing to providing it to the daughter, just yet.   I hope everything works out for you. ... View more

Approximately 31 years ago when I was 27, my father passed from colon cancer.  My dad was not in my life that much as my parents divorced when I was 13.  My family was REALLY disfunctional since the words "I love you" were never used.  The one and only time I heard those words from my dad was shortly before he died, and only over the phone (he was in Germany for experimental treatments).   Tell your dad how much you love him, let him hear those words.  Talk to him.  Share your life with him.  He loves you.  Spend whatever time you can with him talking about his life and yours. As a mom of two adult children (27 and 23), believe me when I say that you have already made him proud in big and small ways by just being you. If you can, find a good therapist to provide support.  I'm sorry that you are traveling through this loss, my heart goes out to you.   ... View more