Approximately 31 years ago when I was 27, my father passed from colon cancer. My dad was not in my life that much as my parents divorced when I was 13. My family was REALLY disfunctional since the words "I love you" were never used. The one and only time I heard those words from my dad was shortly before he died, and only over the phone (he was in Germany for experimental treatments). Tell your dad how much you love him, let him hear those words. Talk to him. Share your life with him. He loves you. Spend whatever time you can with him talking about his life and yours. As a mom of two adult children (27 and 23), believe me when I say that you have already made him proud in big and small ways by just being you. If you can, find a good therapist to provide support. I'm sorry that you are traveling through this loss, my heart goes out to you.
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My sister has been receiving chemo for her stage IV breast cancer for the last 5 months. Surgery and radiation is not an option, chemo is the only med at this time, unless they find a cure for her type of cancer. My question is complicated. My sister chose to have a daughter 14 years ago by artificial means. My sister is also gay, but has not been in a relationship since she had her daughter. She has not shared either piece of information with her daughter. I have told my sister that she needs to share this information with her daughter now so that her daughter can ask her questions, if she has them, and that her daughter has a right to know. My husband and sister disagree, they do not believe my niece needs to be told her mother is gay and she was born from artificial means. Although my sister has not shared this information, she believes, upon her passing, that her daughter could "connect" with her siblings at a later date. I don't even know if this is true? She has mentioned this to MY 27 year old daughter, that she would want her to help her daughter with a sibling search. I have a hard time with some of my sister's thought processes. My husband and I would be the guardians upon my sister's passing.
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.