What an interesting topic! I was intrigued to read about your son, as a toddler, saying he remembered being in his mothers womb, and even earlier. I had a similar experience with my daughter when she was around 3. She was sitting in front of the tv, waiting for Play School to start. I was in the kitchen that opened off the room she was in. Suddenly I heard her shouting out OOOOH OOOOOH OOOOH! Very loud and very  very excited. I went running into the room to see what was happening. She was pointing at the tv and terribly excited. On the tv was the end of a travelogue showing a boat going down a river somewhere in Germany. I asked her what was the matter, she shrieked I lived there! I lived there! I asked her when she lived there, she said When I was a man!!! I asked her when she was a man, but Playschool started and the moment was lost. So yes, I do believe we have other lives  part of our consciousness survives.        ... View more

Hi, I should have added ...  My brother has SSC in neck, not throat, but very similar area. He is 70 years old and has had an accute and  lifelong fear of doctors, dentists, and basically all medical treatments even including blood tests.  When he first was diagnosed (this started as a BCC on his lip), they wanted to do a biopsy. He was terrified.  After the biopsy they decided to remove the BCC, but as he had left it so long before seeing the doctor, it was a much bigger surgery than we expected. That was 4 years ago. Since then, an SCC became apparent on his neck. He has been through all manner of treatments, radiotherapy, chemotherapy, scans, blood tests etc for the treatment of this. His feat of these treatments disapperared very soon after treatment commenced. I think the staff at the hospital were so kind and understanding, and with repeated exposure to different therapies, he just learnt toi tolerate then very quickly and very well. But I am still amazed when I see him casually drop into pathology for a blood test! I hope your husband has a similar experience, and wish you both the strength and courage to go through this journey together, and with all the love you have.   ... View more

This is such an awful time for both your husband and you. He has his his fears and you have your own. I can read in your message that you love him deeply, and that is more powerful than anything. My advice is to protect him, care for him, and be with him  for every step that he wants you to be on this journey. I know that sounds simplistic, but it's often just the little things that matter most. And for yourself, allow yourself to cry. While he may be focusing on the molehills , I guess you are seeing the mountains ahead. My best wishes to you both on such challenging time. X         ... View more

Hi, I really felt for you when I read your message. It reminded me a lot of when my father suffered brain cancer many years ago. He was fine when the family were visitng and put on a brave face, but when we left he just shut down and refused to talk to my mother, even rejecting her attempts to care for him and being sarcastic towards her. She told us she felt so rejected and hurt. It is a great pity that this is also affecting your children, you said they were avoiding him. And you dont feel you have the friends or extended family to offer support. As you and your children are both having such a difficult time, would it be at all possible for you three to join forces and provide the supportive care for each other that could help you all through this? Maybe they would like to talk to you about how they are feeling, maybe you would like to talk to them about your feelings too? I think it could be helpful as a family, if the 3 of you try to have some time together to   share your experiences and work out some strategies of how best to cope with the situation, and how you could support and care for each other. Maybe have a meal out together once a week? Work on becoming a team. It sounds like you have tried everything to help your husband out of his negative speace, but without much success. Maybe its time to focus on building up the relationship between yourself and your children to best help all of you on a day-to-day basis. I dont know if that will be of any help at all, and maybe you have already tried this approach, but I do wish you all the best and hope you can find something to relieve the very sad situation you are in. If I knew how to add a HUG emoticon, I would. 🙂 ... View more