Hi InternetTuffGuy. Thanks for your reply!   Hmmmm. I don't know if I found any improvement, per se. I think it's more accurate to say we found physical workarounds to enhance sensation at the moment of orgasm. Doing things the old way led to disappointment, so we had to recalibrate (try different things). As part of this, we learned not to change what we're doing at the last minute. e.g. Don't pull out. Changing at the last minute usually causes me to "miss" the orgasm proper.   Your complications sound nasty. Sorry to hear about all of that. I have no idea whether those additional complications have led to orgasm problems. Suspect not, but who knows? All I can say is that finding different ways to do things that the point of orgasm has made a huge difference. It still doesn't feel like it used to, because there's no ejaculation, but there are many times now when I say it felt almost like it used to. Often I think it feels just as good, but still different.   Re the ED, have you tried Caverject? It's excellent, if you can handle a needle. Much more effective than the pills. ... View more

Hi bighornso,   1. I don't THINK it's smaller. Sometimes it seems a bit smaller when erect, but I think that's just because it's not as hard as it used to be. I've read that the surgery itself makes it smaller for some people, because the urethra is shorter after the removal of the prostate. Didn't seem to happen to me.   2. Good to hear you're having strong orgasms. That's great news!   3. Yeah, I used a pump, but didn't like it. It was a bit of fun for us as a sex toy, but the erections it created were temporary.   4. I took notes throughout my recovery, and they say my leaking stopped after 16 days. But then there's a note more than 2 months later saying "almost never get any leaking now" and a mention of a nocturnal leak. So that's about 3 months after the op. There's no mention of leaking after that, but I know I occasionally had a few issues after a few drinks. I still have to be a lot more careful than before, and occasionally I still get a leak. But we're talking once every 2-3 months, I'd say (at a guess), so it's not a problem. Gives me something to laugh about with my wife!   5. No, I didn't have any discomfort in my balls.   6. I didn't have any pain like you describe. I did have trouble urinating after 5 months, and it turns out I had a migrated staple. It didn't really cause any pain though. I had to have another surgery to remove that staple (and another catheter!). Then trouble urinating again 3 months after that (but again no pain), because of scarring caused by the migrated staple. More surgery (and ANOTHER catheter) solved that. All fine since.   All is well with me. It was definitely a hard road, and I miss my old erections and orgasms. But I've grown a lot as a person, and my relationship is even better now than it was pre-op. I wouldn't trade the emotional growth for the old erections and orgasms...   Recovery was a long process but, interestingly, it didn't really follow the timeline my doc predicted. I found my erections kept improving for quite a while after he said recovery would be complete. And my orgasms too. Perhaps one or both of these things was due to us just getting used to things or learning new techniques, but I don't think so. I suspect it's just that bodies heal at different rates.   Best of luck with your recovery. Keep us posted. ... View more

Hi mate. Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but at 42, at least it sounds like they got it early, and that's good.   The short answer to your question is yes things have improved a lot. It's still different to how it used to be, but a lot better than after the op.   The long answer is much longer, but I'll try to summarise...   1. It takes time. I'm 4 years out from my op and things are still changing. It didn't take 4 years to notice improvements though, don't worry. That happened within the first year.   2. It requires adaptation. Some of the positions / techniques that used to feel good leading up to and during orgasm no longer do. So we had to experiment.   3. No, after a full prostatectomy, you definitely won't ejaculate. This was the biggest loss for me, in terms of orgasm pleasure. It turns out nearly half of the orgasm pleasure for me was here.   4. But if I'm really horny and we've had a long lead up, I occasionally ejaculate what I believe is 'pre **bleep**'. And sometimes, usually in a squatting position, I'll ejaculate urine! Neither feels exactly the same as a pre-op orgasm, but they're sometimes close and occasionally equal in pleasure.   5. All of the above experimentation is fun!   6. There's a lot less cleanup now, which is great! This opens up opportunities for sexual activity at times and places you couldn't do it before because of the mess!   7. I started seeing a psychologist when I was diagnosed. This was one of the best things I could have done. I still see her. I discovered I had a somewhat unhealthy / counterproductive / limited attitude towards sex, and I've now turned that around. As a result, my relationship is even better than ever and I'm definitely happier than before the op. If someone told me they could give me a magic pill to reverse the negative side effects of the op, but I'd have to relinquish all the self growth, I'd 100% say no.   I hope this helps. Good luck, and feel free to ask more questions. 🙂   ... View more

That's great. And yeah, I hear you. I'm fortunate enough to have a great wife and our relationship is excellent too. She recognises (better than me) that life is change. ... View more

Hi Dave. Thanks for your reply. And sorry to hear about your struggles. I've found the injections the most effective thing too.   When did you have your operation? I was told at 12-18 months after my op, all healing would be complete, and so my erections wouldn't improve after that. But they did. I'm now 30 months in, and they may still be improving. (That said, I drastically reduced my alchohol consumption, and that may well have contributed too. It's not just better on days when I DO drink, but on days when I don't.)   Re orgasms, they're still not as powerful as they used to be, but some come close. 🙂  ... View more

Haha! How terrible for you! 😜   Yeah, things SEEM to be improving. Maybe. It's so hard to tell. But I'm 70% sure. 🙂 ... View more

Bahahaha! Nah, no news yet. I THINK it's improved a bit since the first couple, but nothing since that possible improvement. ... View more

Bahahaha. My personal rule is once per sentence! 😜 ... View more

Yeah, I agree, sex is a lot about the mind. But this is definitely physical. I was feeling very excited about getting back into it, and not concerned about orgasm at all. Also (thank god!) the missing part of the orgasm now seems to be returning - based on last two orgasms. Not back to full strength yet, but the last one was better than the one before that, so I'm assuming that means it's just a time thing. Phew! ... View more

Hi sch. Thanks for your kind reply.   Outside of the orgasm thing, everything's going pretty well. Continence is good, very little pain, I'm very active and mobile, and I don't (yet) need any further treatments. Unfortunately one of my margins was positive, so we have to watch my PSA for a few years. It's possible I'll need a bit of radiotherapy in 2 years to mop up.   Thanks for the Cancer Council link. I hadn't see those pages, but they say the same thing as everything else I've read. In particular, I've read a lot of this: "You will still feel the muscular spasms and pleasure that accompany an orgasm, but you will not ejaculate." So far, that's not the case for me.   Anyway, once again, thanks heaps for your thoughtful reply. Very nice of you. 🙂 ... View more