Yeah, I agree, sex is a lot about the mind. But this is definitely physical. I was feeling very excited about getting back into it, and not concerned about orgasm at all. Also (thank god!) the missing part of the orgasm now seems to be returning - based on last two orgasms. Not back to full strength yet, but the last one was better than the one before that, so I'm assuming that means it's just a time thing. Phew!
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Hi sch. Thanks for your kind reply. Outside of the orgasm thing, everything's going pretty well. Continence is good, very little pain, I'm very active and mobile, and I don't (yet) need any further treatments. Unfortunately one of my margins was positive, so we have to watch my PSA for a few years. It's possible I'll need a bit of radiotherapy in 2 years to mop up. Thanks for the Cancer Council link. I hadn't see those pages, but they say the same thing as everything else I've read. In particular, I've read a lot of this: "You will still feel the muscular spasms and pleasure that accompany an orgasm, but you will not ejaculate." So far, that's not the case for me. Anyway, once again, thanks heaps for your thoughtful reply. Very nice of you. :-)
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Hi everyone. I'm 46 and had a radical prostatectomy just under 4 weeks ago. I'm still getting erections (not as strong as they were, but strong enough), and my libido has remained strong. Surgeon said we could have non-vigorous sexual activity from yesterday. We did, but unfortunately, I was unable to orgasm. I got to the point of orgasm, and then... nothing. To be clear, it wasn't about being unable to get to the point of orgasm. It had been nearly a month, and I was chomping at the bit, so that didn't take long at all. I KNEW I was about to orgasm. In fact, I'd reached the point where I couldn't NOT. And then absolutely nothing. Tried again later through masturbation, and exactly the same thing happened. I Googled it a bit, and sadly it appears it's quite common. It's called anorgasmia, and most figures say about 30-40% of men experience it after prostate removal. I couldn't find anything on whether it's permanent, but I'll be absolutely devastated if it is. My questions are, has anyone experienced this? In particular, has anyone experienced it and then had their orgasms return? Is this happening simply because it's so soon after my surgery? Thanks in advance.
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.