Hi bighornso, 1. I don't THINK it's smaller. Sometimes it seems a bit smaller when erect, but I think that's just because it's not as hard as it used to be. I've read that the surgery itself makes it smaller for some people, because the urethra is shorter after the removal of the prostate. Didn't seem to happen to me. 2. Good to hear you're having strong orgasms. That's great news! 3. Yeah, I used a pump, but didn't like it. It was a bit of fun for us as a sex toy, but the erections it created were temporary. 4. I took notes throughout my recovery, and they say my leaking stopped after 16 days. But then there's a note more than 2 months later saying "almost never get any leaking now" and a mention of a nocturnal leak. So that's about 3 months after the op. There's no mention of leaking after that, but I know I occasionally had a few issues after a few drinks. I still have to be a lot more careful than before, and occasionally I still get a leak. But we're talking once every 2-3 months, I'd say (at a guess), so it's not a problem. Gives me something to laugh about with my wife! 5. No, I didn't have any discomfort in my balls. 6. I didn't have any pain like you describe. I did have trouble urinating after 5 months, and it turns out I had a migrated staple. It didn't really cause any pain though. I had to have another surgery to remove that staple (and another catheter!). Then trouble urinating again 3 months after that (but again no pain), because of scarring caused by the migrated staple. More surgery (and ANOTHER catheter) solved that. All fine since. All is well with me. It was definitely a hard road, and I miss my old erections and orgasms. But I've grown a lot as a person, and my relationship is even better now than it was pre-op. I wouldn't trade the emotional growth for the old erections and orgasms... Recovery was a long process but, interestingly, it didn't really follow the timeline my doc predicted. I found my erections kept improving for quite a while after he said recovery would be complete. And my orgasms too. Perhaps one or both of these things was due to us just getting used to things or learning new techniques, but I don't think so. I suspect it's just that bodies heal at different rates. Best of luck with your recovery. Keep us posted.
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