My Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer three years ago and it had gone to the lymph. A year later it grew in his lung. The oncologist said that if it occurred in a second organ he would not be able to cure it. Oxaliplatin worked well on his lungs, the cancer cleared and so they stopped his chemo to give him a break. The cancer grew again in his lungs within a few months and they resumed Oxaliplatin. He recently had a clear scan but they have stopped the Oxaliplatin again saying that it his body cannot take it anymore. He thinks the clean scan means he has been cured of cancer. In the last few months his oncologist has retired and he has been given a new one who he has seen twice. On Tuesday I will meet this one for the first time. I privately asked the former oncologist how long my Dad might have to live and he told me around 12 months. It has been 7 months since that conversation. I'm not sure if my father has ever asked that question. Usually he insists on seeing the oncologist and having chemo on his own. He has been very stoic throughout this whole process and is convinced he has 8 years to go. While I respect his positive outlook I also wish he would be a bit more realistic about whats happening to him and help me put some plans in place for the family after he goes. I also want to make sure he is informed so that he can use his time wisely. I want to ask the new oncologist about his prognosis. Is it fair to do that in front of him? ... View more