May 2020
It’s an absolutely devastating illness to go through. We sadly lost dad last night. We are totally heartbroken but we feel so much better knowing he’s not suffering anymore. We are all here for one and another and I hope u have love and support around you too. Take care xo
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May 2020
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Hi Patches what an awful road we are travelling down. My father also has pancreatic cancer. He was diagnosed in October 2019 and after 6 rounds of aggressive chemo we were told it has spread through to his whole body. We are now counting down the days if not hours of life he has left. We too wanted him home with my mum right or wrong, however after much thought we made the decision to place him in hospital On palliative care. Thankfully we did as how he has deteriorated so rapidly there is no way in the world mum would cope at home with him. It’s absolutely brutal. We are lucky enough to be in an outback country town and our little hospital has been brilliant with us all going to be with him. You also most importantly need to take care of yourself as well. whatever you choose to do is your decision Neither is right or wrong and I wish you all the love in the world while we battle this horribly cruel journey. cheers
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May 2020
Hi Linda I feel terribly sorry for you loosing your husband. This cancer road is absolutely horrid. My father has only days if not hours left of life. He was diagnosed in October 2019 with pancreatic cancer and watching him deteriorate rapidly before our eyes has been the absolute worst. I’m very worried also how my mum is going to cope. I have no advice to give but I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. xo
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March 2020
@Iyana271 thank you for your kind words. It’s a crazy ride this cancer road, and I guess I was a little in denial thinking I was strong enough to do it all and keep every one positive and calm. However I know that now we are all just human and it’s ok to fall apart especially when it come to something like this. We won’t know his out come till his appointment in a few weeks. However he has deteriorated so much from the chemo I’m pretty worried about what the doctor is going to say.
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March 2020
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@Katekat thank you so much. I did get your email. I’m not sure I would like to do the group chat Just yet but I definitely think a one on one would be beneficial. I find it very hard to talk about it with out crying so I will definitely be a blubbering mess on the telephone.
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March 2020
Thanks Kj it really messes with your head. I have been doing some listening to great podcasts and trying to write as much as I can everything I’m feeling. I know we are only just at the beginning and luckily enough I have realised that I needed help. Realistically I probably should have got a little help sooner. I’m sure the guilt will always be there but your right I need to take time out and regroup. Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate it!! Xo
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March 2020
Thanks for reply Mel. You certainly make a lot of sense. I know this is just the beginning and I know I need some help myself. Which I am now willing myself to allow for that help. Lucky I do have the most amazing family around me and support me. All the best for you wedding day and sending so much love to you and your family on this heartbreaking path we are heading down. Xo
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March 2020
My father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October last year. Since he was diagnosed I have pretty much been the rock for him and my mother who are both aged in their 60. I’m 34 have the most amazing husband and 2 gorgeous children 13 and 11. I have been the one both of them have depended on since the very beginning. I’m their transport to and from treatments. I do any paper work that needs doing. I’m pretty much at their beck and call. And that’s ok. I get that completely in this day in age they do struggle to keep up with it all. However since my fathers last treatment away I have all of a sudden become so anxious. I have never felt this way before and it scares me. So silly considering he’s the once going down the cancer road. So much so I have had to put off going with them on a specialist appointment to Brisbane as I just am feeling completely overwhelmed with it all. Luckily my sister has said she will do this trip. The guilt tears me apart. I feel like I don’t know how to cope with this anxiety feeling running through my body. I think I’m just very scared of “what comes next”. Watching someone you love deteriorate in front of your eyes has a huge impact and clearly I was not ready to witness this. so here I am asking for some advice on how I cope with all this. I’m having trouble sleeping and eating and just feel really terrible. xo
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