Hi all, omg! I thought it was just me! My mother had very little to do with me also, and my father (they are long time divorced) was going around telling everyone (including the mechanic I discovered when I was having my service) how sad it was for him. Yet, I think I saw him once when I was going through treatment and after. I see him less to this day. I don't speak with either of them really. It's a sad situation. I think the trauma of the emotional isolation was more than the treatment. I saw a side to people that was so very raw, and so self absorbed. I was equally totally bemused by people who were "acting like they were all too fantastic to get it". Absolutely shocking for me. Too much, too early (I was 23) I just want to say also, I found the comments above about the guy who wouldn't wear the dressing gown of his dad's quite disturbing. I feel that it would be highly inappropriate to do so. What are people thinking?? ... View more

I just found an online cancer terminology dictionary: http://www.cancer.gov/dictionary Its got a definition for just about everything. Here's the definition for survivor: survivor (ser-VY-ver) "One who remains alive and continues to function during and after overcoming a serious hardship or life-threatening disease. In cancer, a person is considered to be a survivor from the time of diagnosis until the end of life." ... View more