Hi you poor thing.  How terrible that this happen right on your surgery.  I went thru my recovery without my husband and my son helped me.  After my husband got some help I returned but I still had anger towards him for letting me down when I most needed it.  It is a work in process my marriage.  I found out my husband was so scared that I would die he couldn’t cope and got very anxious maybe this what is happening  with your partner.   We think everybody can cope but that isn’t true.   I hope your partner calms down and returns.  Be strong know that you can thru this with or without him.  Good luck I hope everything turns out well and your operation goes well. ... View more

Hi I am so sorry to hear what your husband and yourself are going thru.  When I got diagnosed with cancer in my small intestine it all happen the same way as your husband so fast one day being told the news and In 7 days being  operated on.  I wonder if having no time to think about things is better.  Life can be cruel one minute life is just going normally and next everything is tipped upside down and hard.  I think the best way is try to live is day by day and not let your brain run away from you by thinking to far ahead.  Which is not easy to do.  I wish I had something to say to make it better but I don’t.  Look after yourself in such a hard time. ... View more

Hi I have neuroendocrine in my small intestine and in my kidney.  I agree my partner is scared but i am the one dealing with doctors, scan, treatment and recovery.  I think if someone looked in a window and saw us they think he has the cancer and not me as  I cannot say one word without him getting very emotional and not able to continue speaking.  I have no one to lean on or talk to.  Luckily I have a strong character and will get thru this alone but it would be nice to have the support. ... View more