Hi @Anka80,   My darling Mum was diagnosed with gallbladder and lung cancer about a month ago, and like your experience it has absolutely upended our world.  It's completely surreal.     Some positives I've found amongst all this trauma and the confronting prognosis: *Mum is coping really well so far with the chemo.  I was terrified she would be so ill - but for fatigue and some rashes/nausea she's doing amazingly well.  I'll take that *Amazingly, the chronic pain she was in has almost completely gone since starting chemo.  This must be a huge relief for her after so many months  *I'm drawing a lot of strength from her positivity and courage - I can't believe how strong and positive she is being even when my Sister and I have been distraught  *I'm learning the absolute privilege of caring for a loved one who is ill *It's been really very heartwarming to see Mum's friends offer assistance and support, once she was ready to talk about it with them *The more I talk about it with friends and colleagues, the more I learn of other people's experiences and that so many are dealing with similar experiences    Try not to think too far ahead, and stay positive.  As Budgie says, feel whatever you need and know that you're not alone.     I've found many of the Cancer Council resources really helpful too.       ... View more

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