I am sorry to hear about thatm stay strong and positive! Take charge and plan as much as possible to prevent last-minute emergencies. This can also help provide a sense of control and order. ... View more

Hi Curla, I have been dealing with my husbands Cancer since June 18th of last year 2019. We did 6 months of Chemo, our last was Christmas 2019.  My husband has Stage 4 Apoendix Cancer/ bowel.  He had Hipec surgery 2 and a half weeks later.  It’s called the mother of all surgeries and they removed 95% of his omentum/ stomach lining and gallbladder bc they could see the Gallbladder was extremely large.  Well July they could see a spot that needed to be watched.  October 3 months later, it’s spread in the whole abdominal cavity.  We just started chemo again November 9 th.  God I wish I could tell you what to do for yourself.  Unfortunately, it isn’t about you.  It’s about him and how much time you have with them.  I know the cancer is going to take my hubby.  I am 51 years old.  He is 57.  We have three beautiful kids who need their dad.  I believe in don’t wish a day away, bc before you know it, our loved ones won’t be here with us.  I am busting my ass.  He cannot eat or drink anything by mouth.  I had to learn TPN thru his PICC Line.  It is IV at home 16 hour bags I have to hook up and then hook him up to a sodium Chloride bag for 4 hours.  20 hours total to IV and 4 hours free.  I don’t like help bc that’s time away from him and nobody is going to care for him the way I am going to care for the man I loved and married and had three of the most amazing kids with.  Just love and live every minute with him.  I’ve been thru his most angriest of days were I couldn’t do anything right, to him being so grateful for me.  He also has a stomach G-tube now that I have to clean and flush and empty his bag.  Again I do everything I do out of pure love.  When we do get our time for ourselves, we are then gonna be lonely, bc our dear loving husbands will be home with god, and we will be here wishing they were here at there worst.  Take each minute day by day and be grateful for this time.  I know it’s hard I cry away from my kids and husband.  I love my family and the pain Cancer has brought to my family.   Sending you a great big Hug and know you are not alone. ❤️ ... View more