Lelfassy1 I too had a very unexpected diagnosis over the phone and when I saw the doctor, I threatened to walk out of his office when he tried to confirm my diagnosis. I went into immediate denial and wasn’t very nice to him. (I have since apologised profusely) but he said my reaction was normal and he sees it all the time. everyone reacts differently and your reaction was to freeze with fear. Wanting to run away or leave the place of diagnosis is the bodies fight or flight response to extreme shock which we both had. i was eventually diagnosed with Stage 1b Grade 2 and had a total hysterectomy including removal of ovaries and cervix. This was followed by 30 radiation treatments. 5 months on, I am still living in fear but it is getting a tiny bit better as time goes on. Id love to chat to you more and see how you’re going. sending hugs 🤗  ... View more

Hi,   I don't know if there is a relationship between polyps and speed of cancer in the general population, but I don't believe so. I would recommend discussing with your doctor a monitoring/screening process going forward though.   I have a genetic disposition to bowel cancer, and I have a colonoscopy and endoscopy every 12 months to check for polyps.   My advise would be that before your appointment with your doctor you write down a list of questions before you attend (and write down the answers!). Once you're in that appointment, it's amazing the way your mine will just go blank. Also take a friend/family member if you can.   Oh, and good luck with your appointment. Let us all know how you go.   -s   ... View more

 By all means let her know.  I think she'd like to be told. But you're dealing with two losses here, and I don't believe she will come back to you. See a psychologist or get some kind of help to deal with this. Is it possible for you to have a heart transplant?  ... View more