Hi Lovely Ladies I too have found this group really helpful if only because I know I'm not alone.  This behaviour from my husband is unacceptable but not unexpected, I find it a no win situation, I've tried calling it out but then I just get the guilt speech that it would be better if he just died as it's such an inconvenience etc etc etc.  But the thing is I know I'm the stronger one, if the shoe was on the other foot he could not do all I do, working full-time, looking after three kids, juggling the money because he's had to give up work and now nurse and caretaker.  Do whatever you need to take care of yourself, the nurse at the cancer clinic told me it's just like a falling airplane, you have to put your face mask on first.  Take care and thanks for listening. X ... View more

I agree, I try not to take it personally but it's like waking up and my normally strong dependable husband had been replaced by this sick, mean, self centred stranger.  I know this is horrible but the thought of this dragging on for years is inconceivable.  Thank God for my friends. ... View more

I'm understand your worry over your Mums inability to eat and weight loss. My husband has a tumour at the Junction of his stomach and esophagus and can only have liquids and sometimes not even. He has lost 25kg since March and it's very upsetting watching him become sicker and weaker. Fingers crossed the chemo helps both our loved ones. X ... View more

Hi Susan61 Thanks for your reply I can relate to everything you're going through along with three kids who are no help in the mix.  It seems like a no win situation for everyone, I find myself being resentful for all I do and if I try and talk about my fears of how I'm scared of losing him and how I  will manage financially he gets angry and calls me a traitor and goes on about how I will just forget him and move onto someone new.  It's very hurtful and he also doesn't like me to talk about it to my friends and he won't seek help.  I know he's scared and feels ripped off but we all are.  Hope things improve for you and me.  Thanks for reaching out.  Jule ... View more

Thanks Patches ... View more

Thanks Budgie, he's on his second round of chemo I didn't know this could be a side effect.  I will do some research and also see if I can convince him to talk to someone. Thanks Jule ... View more