Hi,   Even though I was diagnosed a while ago now (November last year) I've only now felt like seeking out support groups. I noticed your post because loss of control is exactly what I felt when I first found out, and what I've struggled with the most ever since. Particularly hard has been how my mother has reacted; I know she wants to help, but she's been very pushy and controlling about it, and that just intensifies the feeling that I'm not in charge of things.   I'm glad to hear that things are heading in a more positive direction for you. Things improved for me when I returned to work - it was a way to reclaim some normalcy and feel more in charge of my life. It also helps that there's some light at the end of the tunnel now, as I've finished chemo and radio therapy and have surgery ahead of me. At the same time, I have to travel to Sydney for my operation (I live in Adelaide), so I'll be all alone there, which again makes me feel like I won't be in control of things. Still, I'm trying to be optimistic.   Anyway, it was good to see someone else put into words what I was feeling. In particular, you mentioned in your first post feeling like you were in some way being taught a lesson by your diagnosis, which I have definitely found myself thinking. It's good to be able to voice these thoughts, even when we know they aren't always rational. I hope you continue to find positivity and ways to cope.   All the best,   Henry. ... View more