Whipple surgery is very hard on anybody but much worse on someone in a deteriorated state. Still, it's hard to feel so helpless and have people not listening to your concerns. With my spouse I have to stay on top of the caregivers to do what should be understood but look at it as something positive helping their care be better for the next time. ... View more

I hear you and your pain goes  deep along with frustration and anger which is totally appropriate, Have you thought about getting into women's activity groups where you can be surrounded by support and others helping you by sharing what helped them? Hypnotherapy  might help get those images out of your head and you will be given opportunities to reenact from a stronger vantage view.  Remember to balance your pain and grief with helping others as here you are not alone and find an opportunity for balance in your emotional welfare.   ... View more

Wonderful news. Very happy for you and your family and friends. So good to hear 'the bell ring'.  ... View more

This is beautiful but I imagine was a process not an overnight decision. I also believe this wonderful attitude  displays a great example to people that love you and are affected by your current condition.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Very inspirational.  ... View more

Dear soul,    my mother had breast cancer in her 50's then reconstruction. She was very lucky  and lived to the age of 93 but my father died of non-small cell cancer in a time when they were just starting to look at new avenues of hope. I am not an oncology RN but had had remembered at one time when chemo to the peritoneum was done not through the port near the heart but via a portal access through the abdomen and this was more successful  as more direct. Also, as gallbladder affected the surgeon can put in a drain to make her less affected by built up secretion. Not sure they do this direct treatment into the abdomen anymore. I was told when my dad had lung cancer they could administer chemo beads via bronchoscopy but he chose radiation instead but this did not work and we had to accept it. He also smoked but had a non-smokers lung cancer which was really weird to me  at the  time. I will lift up prayers for you both . As you know in this stage treatment  is very aggressive so the treatment can sometimes do more harm than good. Your mom sounds very resilient though yet time will tell. Either way I know you will find ways to love and care for her the best way possible.  ... View more