So sorry to hear about your mom... I personally would respect her wishes... Our oldest son and his family are flying home in January.  I know they can't afford to and it brakes my heart. I know he's worried that I may not be around this time next year.  My doctor just reminded me yesterday that I could still die from my cancer and that I need to take it more seriously than I am.  I don't want my kids or grandchildren changing their life because of me.  I know they love me.  That's why I wake up everyday happy.  I'm sure your mom feels the same way.  If you decide not to go never regret it.  I can feel how much you love her by your post.  I'm sure she knows it as well.  Make her last days about her and not you.. If I were you I would go afterwards and spend the time helping your dad. I could be lost without my wife . I'm so thankful that it's me with cancer and not her. Be strong for your daughter as well. This will be a life learning experience. If she see you handing it well she will be better prepared for ruff times in her life.  I would prefer not to have cancer but I do. I'm using it to teach my family to stay positive and strong... Stay strong!!! ... View more