Hi ! This sounds so awfully frustrating to you.. and im so sorry about your mother.. it's a terrible diagnosis.. and a tough road. But as a carer I've seen many cases of my patients with cancer go up and down.. there's so much misdiagnosis, or misreaddings, delays and side effects that can continue down this road..also her immune system would of become immunocompromised during chemo which does add the risk of her getting pnemonia or really unwell which requires hospitalisation because her body can't fight the nasties as she could before...its very hard hearing that it has gotten worse espeically for you when things were looking so up.. I'm so truly sorry but the oncologist can only say and do with the results they have and as the road goes on as well.. but they are the best medical support even if family thinks not. .. my MIL got told by her oncologist even though it's sad that she better start living her life now as bowel cancer is such a strong and aggressive cancer it's unpredictable. My MIL in her mid 40s just got diagnosed around 4-5 months ago with stage 3 bowel cancer.. she has had her tumor cut out 3 months ago and half her bowel.. she's been undergoing chemotherapy at our home now ,5 hours at the hospital followed by 48hours via chemo pump intravenous at home.. we will see how things go down the line in the future but just be support for her... but may I ask a question .. during chemotherapy treatment was your mother around young children and babies??? My paediatrician is saying I'm endangering my children all under 5 years and my newborn by having my Mother In Law commence treatment at home and that as it is cumulative there is more risk as she continues the treatment via side effects.. my anxiety as I do care for her and my three children as I've had to stop work has increased dramatically as soon as he told me this. If you can give your experiences of your mother during chemo and what she done to stop exposure to family in the household would be so much appreciated... I'm sending prayers and we'll wishes to you x
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hi all.. I'm new here..and I'm a carer and mother looking for advice and I'm very young 23 but am a qualified carer by training and experience for 4 years.. sadly my mother in law was diagnosed with Stage 3 Bowel cancer she is in her mid 40s.. she had surgery 3 months ago and removed her tumor and half her bowel. It was such a shock as it all came on so fast.. but after 4 weeks post surgery she has been doing treatment every 2 weeks for 48 hours at home after her Infusion treatment for 5 hours in the hospital.. it's a sad situation and I can't imagine what she's going through mentally, emotionally and physically. But she has been dependent on us before the cancer and is currently depending on us now with the diagnosis financially and for emotionally. We have supported her then and still will now.. but recently we got advised by the paediatricians as I have two toddlers under 3 and a newborn baby and breastfeeding that it is not best to have her staying with us anymore whilst having treatment and I should halt all care as in cleaning after her and in the bathroom where bodily fluids are present.. as she hasn't been up to scratch with her precautions around the house or my children while having treatment at home and it's become a endangerment with the exposure. I've been cleaning and caring for her needs in everyway and I've become kind of her carer even though it's not any different as before cancer just more cleaning and making sure everything is well in the house and safe environment for her and my kids.. I'm just asking as advice what I should do? How I should address this ? What is your experience with family and being around children whilst having treatment at home? I'm at a loss. I don't want to be rude and kick her out somewhere else especially during this time in her life, but I also can't risk any longterm acute exposure to my children or my husband and myself if she can't also keep her safety precautions main priority, we can support her continually if she was to leave but not 24/7 in the house whilst having treatment. Please help.
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