Hi ! This sounds so awfully frustrating to you.. and im so sorry about your mother.. it's a terrible diagnosis.. and a tough road. But as a carer I've seen many cases of my patients with cancer go up and down.. there's so much misdiagnosis, or misreaddings, delays and side effects that can continue down this road..also her immune system would of become immunocompromised during chemo which does add the risk of her getting pnemonia or really unwell which requires hospitalisation because her body can't fight the nasties as she could before...its very hard hearing that it has gotten worse espeically for you when things were looking so up.. I'm so truly sorry but the oncologist can only say and do with the results they have and as the road goes on as well.. but they are the best medical support even if family thinks not. .. my MIL got told by her oncologist even though it's sad that she better start living her life now as bowel cancer is such a strong and aggressive cancer it's unpredictable. My MIL in her mid 40s just got diagnosed around 4-5 months ago with stage 3 bowel cancer.. she has had her tumor cut out 3 months ago and half her bowel.. she's been undergoing chemotherapy at our home now ,5 hours at the hospital followed by 48hours via chemo pump intravenous at home.. we will see how things go down the line in the future but just be support for her... but may I ask a question .. during chemotherapy treatment was your mother around young children and babies??? My paediatrician is saying I'm endangering my children all under 5 years and my newborn by having my Mother In Law commence treatment at home and that as it is cumulative there is more risk as she continues the treatment via side effects.. my anxiety as I do care for her and my three children as I've had to stop work has increased dramatically as soon as he told me this. If you can give your experiences of your mother during chemo and what she done to stop exposure to family in the household would be so much appreciated... I'm sending prayers and we'll wishes to you x ... View more

Me3   First of all great job talking care of your mother Inlaw. My wife was amazing when my mom came home to finish out her final day's.  I definitely love her more for doing it. I understand your concern about having her around your children. We were advised because of my chemo treatments to double flush after I use the bathroom. My wife acts like my bathroom is a death chamber. From my research and doctors advice the first 2 days we should be careful.  Do you have any other family that could take care of her that is close by? Sounds like you are stuck in a ruff situation. But in the end you have to put your children first. Im sure your mom will understand that you have to make other arrangements.  The only reason why my wife and I haven't packed up and left the state we live in is because my mother Inlaw doesn't want to leave with us. We just learned that she is having health issues 😓 . I would research and print out as much information you can find about the risks to your family. Make sure you and your husband have talked it over and support the discussion that you come up with. Maybe have a nurse or doctor talk to her.  My heart hurts for you and your family.    ... View more