Hi   I don't actually have answers but I want to affirm you for your care and for reaching out.  This has been hard for you.  She probably can't think straight either.  I am sorry that you are going through this and imagine you have been amazing and will work it out.  All the best 💜🙏🌈 ... View more

I don't have answers.  I have dealt with hard stuff but that is much harder.  yes cancer sucks and no it's not fair.  Love and prayers hope that doesn't give offence.   ... View more

I think you know what to do and that you just need someone to believe you and reassure you that it is OK to be human and have limitations.     I am sorry that you have been through this.  I don't actually know what you will do exactly but I want to tell you that praying for your brother is a good thing to do and that I am encouraged by your story to believe that the world still has people out there doing their best in messy circumstances and I believe that you will keep doing the best you can and that is all any one of us can do.  ❣🙏 ... View more

I can only offer compassion and empathy.     I have had the same issue with uninformed family and friends with Covid vaccines.    I affirmed their right to choose,  bit my tongue when they misquoted statistics I tried to maintain respect and reassure them that my view was well researched,  that I was not being vaccinated in fear. I repeatedly said it was my choice to protect vulnerable friends and family however I could...   I have no answers as I have not felt respect for my choices the way I try to respect them.     I hear others have success with "I will check your suggestions out " or "thankyou for that we will consider it " but some people don't seem to notice their own unkindness.     Sorry you are going through this 😔    ❣🙏 ... View more

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Hi   I am surprised and disappointed that no one has replied to you before with compassion and empathy.    Having lived through a brain tumour and surgery myself I acknowledge that my behaviour was affected and I only processed the odds of a shortened life without facing certain death.  I had to acknowledge to myself and my family that my behaviour was hard on them.  I imagine the cancer has affected your partner's behaviour just as mine was affected and I am CERTAIN  that cancer and uncertainty and fear have affected my husband's emotional regulation...   BUT you are human too and I affirm and applaud your honesty,  your willingness to consider what is right and compassionate and most helpful.  I know the world needs more givers like you.     I am sure you made your mistakes in the relationship but you still want to give what you can and setting boundaries is best for everyone involved.     I have experienced already how easily people show compassion to the cancer sufferer but how much less support there is for their carers.     I cheer you on with doing the best you can with what you know,  for forgiving yourself and your partner whatever comes next.  it is OK to be human.     I can offer love and prayers  ... View more