Hi Ratty, I am also in the same boat, or as some say-the same turbulent sea! My husband had bladder and prostate last year and was VERY much the same as you describe. He pushed me out. It's what he does even though he can see Im just trying to help. In the end I think they feel, for the first time, mortal and venerable-two things that go against his normal, stoic, martyrish ego. He's a wonderful man, so strong but cannot handle not being able to do the million things that he could whilst recovering for months. So my advice is to let him know that he is strong, he can push through and it's okay to have shit days, its just the body needing some time off. They seem to deal better in short sentences and facts. Try not to get angry at him, you're probably more angry at the future and the actual situation and all it holds rather than his behavior. Try to separate the two when you can.  Sadly though, his cancer has metastasised to his lungs as we speak and the prognosis is not great. I am worried, even though I say the above that this time may be worse as it is more than likely terminal. I have spoken to him about it and begged him to not lock me out. I wish I had family and friends to vent to if and when he is being 'difficult' but I don't have many in my 'inner circle'. So I have to be strong and listen to what he needs. Hopefully we can go through this journey in harmony.  Youre not alone and we are all united in grief here. kazu ... View more

I am a sceptic of most quackology that isn’t peer reviewed.  HOWEVER…My partner is not. She received a prognosis of inside a year in November and talked in a squeak for three months. Then she got onto this slightly fanatical Facebook site and its dodgy snake oil schemes, but in doing so, reclaimed some sense of control, and her voice back and smiled at my terrible jokes.  I don’t have a compromise as far as vaccines are concerned. You can have all the freedom and right to choose as you like, but nowhere near me or my family. We had Covid over Easter and she will die if she gets it again and she has no freedom or right to choose.  ... View more

Hi   I don't actually have answers but I want to affirm you for your care and for reaching out.  This has been hard for you.  She probably can't think straight either.  I am sorry that you are going through this and imagine you have been amazing and will work it out.  All the best 💜🙏🌈 ... View more