Double whammy.

[Dotty_and_Rex]

I believe I have been in shock overdrive since December 2011 when my husband was diagnosed with lung and brain cancer.After all the tests including a PET scan to see if he could be operated on showed his cancer had spread to other parts of his body and inoperable he was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal lung cancer.He had palliative radiation treatment to shrink the brain tumor and is on oral chemo palliative treatment for his lung cancer. In February this year my eldest daughter who lives interstate rang with the news she has breast cancer..two operations and radiation treatment later she is finding herself getting depressed. I know she has a loving husband and children but I feel guilty I am not with her in her hour of need. I have suggested she get in contact with the Cancer Council so hope she does. As a carer I need to be with my husband right now but that doesn't stop me from feeling pulled apart as a wife and as a mother. Just wanted to share how hard it is for me right now. Gentle blessings to you all who are doing it tough.

[SILLY]

I can understand you feeling torn .You need to remember your daughter has her husband and most likely friends will be able to help her with the children. Yet ,I imagine I would feel just as you do if faced with the same circumstances. You know you are doing your best and it does seem unfair that this is happening. The Cancer Council was good advice.

[Tina_Basson]

You can only be where your meant to be in this life physically and that is where you are now,I feel so sad for you but I am certain your daughter knows how much you are with her spiritually and that support is just as important.Stay strong hugs and wishes.X

[Dotty_and_Rex]

Thank you Tina and Silly. it makes me feel validated as a carer,but gee it's tough going. Hugs (((()))) to you . D

[SILLY]

Reading this reminds me how patient my husband has been throughout . In the beginning hugs were sometimes all that helped .I would suddenly feel like that was all I wanted. We are both very affectionate anyway and have always been with each other.

[Bindy]

I can understand how you are feeling, both my dad and I have been going through cancer.