My Intro

[Danielle]

I have joined today. I lost my Mum to cancer on 3-4-2010. Mum had what Drs believe were 2 primary cancers that presented at the same time. Pancreatic and Bowel Cancer. It was extremely aggressive and we were never given any hope for any kind of recovery. I helped my father care for Mum which I must say was a gift I gave but also received. I am 34 Mum, was my best friend and a great help to myself and my husband who have 3 children - 2 with special needs. So as you can imagine I am really missing her - and her advice love and support. I am at a very dark place at the moment. I miss her terribly and my heart is broken. I have joined to try to heal myself and gain insight. Is this normal? Does it get worse before it gets better? Thankyou

[Danielle]

Thankyou Julie - Dad has had no diagnosis thankfully! I was writing about Mums journey through cancer. I think I will find comfort too expressing how I feel but also to learn about other peoples experiences. Danielle

[Jules2]

Danielle My apologies i completely misread what you typed. I hope i havent offended you. Julie

[Sailor]

Hi Danielle Welcome to the site - there are some very caring people on this site and I am sure that you will be cared for very well. It is natural to feel as you do and to grieve your loss. You have an enormous load on your hands with two children with special needs. Your Mum was a huge help to you. Then you have had all that special effort of caring for your Mum and now all that has stopped. It is no wonder that you feel as you do. Have you tried ringing the Cancer Helpline 13 11 20 - it is there for you, not just for those who have cancer. You might also think about some counselling and you can get that with medicare assistance if you go to the GP and ask about the better outcome in mental health program. This is a program that is for us all and realises that there are times when we could all use some counselling. Best wishes Sailor I keep sailing on in this middle passage. I am sailing into the wind and the dark. But I am doing my best to keep my boat steady and my sails full. Arthur Ashe

[Jules2]

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[WishingStar]

Hi Danielle, Just letting you know that I am thinking of you. Sailors suggestion is a great one. I have found the Cancer Council councilling (you can have phone councilling if you prefer or are regional) really helpful. This site is also good to help express your feelings. It does sound like you have so much on your plate - it is ok to feel what you are feeling at the moment and to ask for help. Cyber hugs, Nicole xoxox

[Danielle]

No problems Julie, I was not offended at all!!!!! Danielle

[Danielle]

Thankyou for your post Nicole and Sailor I will definitely take it all on board. My GP has suggested that and I did utilise it when Mum was first diagnosed. I think I need to revisit! My problem is to just find the time so the fact you can get phone help may be another option. The first step is to realise you need help and the second is to say it outloud - so I guess Ive tackled two big hurdles! Thanks Again Danielle