The New Normal

[deniseford]

I think I understand now when everyone talks about this new kind of normal...we are slowing starting to adjust and accept what is now normal. Except I want to scream NO I do not accept this at all...Cancer sucks arse and I just want to punch it right in the face!!!!! The waiting is the worst....waiting for tests, waiting to see the doctor, waiting for results....always waiting. :( I have finished my rant....now I will go have a coffee....and smile like everything is ok.

[little_stitcher]

I totally get you. How good would it be if cancer was something we could actually beat up- I think with all our efforts and emotional energy it would be ground into the dust within a day. But the slow smoulder of frustration and waiting really got to me as well. You don't have to smile here. -hugs- Emily

[Melanie]

Oh gosh I hear you!! When doctors appointments & handfuls of drugs become normal- everyday activities. But then it's evident it's not normal when you describe a small part of your day to someone else & they stare in disbelief. I have a motto- keep smiling, it confuses the cancer 😉

[SILLY]

I think everyone here understands how it's not easy to accept the new normal . Even as I accepted mine ,very gradually ,I kept thinking that I wanted life to go back to how it was before . After 3 years now ,I'd still gladly go back if it was possible . Wishing you well .

[lambshank]

I still can't accept that this insidious disease is our "normal" what happened to our lives and the way our friends used to treat us? I find now that they feel they treading on eggshells, my work life is over and the going is hard money is scarce now, but I guess I can get on with it, and every time I looked around the waiting room in the hospital and saw little ones, skinny and frail still smiling, I feel I should be grateful that at least I have lived some, poor little ones that know no more than treatment and pain broke my heart and made me feel selfish for being angry and upset about my own prognosis

[SILLY]

It took me a long time to accept the " new normal". It is 3 years since my diagnosis and 12 months ago I had a procedure done for cosmetic reasons because I was unhappy about tumour removal surgery . Medically ,it wasn't classed as cosmetic but that was my aim . I plan to get half an eyebrow tatooed on too as it disappeared because of the surgery . It has been a very gradual process of acceptance .Just over 2 years ago I had some counselling and without that I don't know how things would be today . I highly recommend it . Talk to the Cancer Council in your state .