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lin78
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My family and I have just found out that our mum has pantreatic cancer that has spread to the liver she is currently in hospital she had a stent put in to help with the jaundice then tackling the next part her cancer. When she gets out she will be organising her rental and moving in with me. I will be taking care of her I am taking one day at a time as we are not sure how long she will be with her. I know it is going to be hard not just on me but my daughter but I need to do this for her she took care of me when I was younger so it is now my turn to take care of her and all help my younger brother who has a disability. 

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kj
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lin78

Sorry to read of your mums pancreatic cancer diagnosis and that it has spread to her liver.But don’t  neglect your own health, while giving love and support to your mum.

lin78
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Thanks , I will be ensuring that I have time for myself as  well as ensuring my mum is ok. At present she is in hospital and not sure when she will be out so will still go see her and get the room ready before she comes out of hospital.

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Patches
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Sorry to hear about your mum lin78.  My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October 2019, it had spread to his liver prior to diagnosis.  Sending my love to both you and your mum. ❤️

lin78
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Thanks. I am still coming to terms with things as we only found out Monday this week. So it has been hard. My mum is 75 turning 76 next week she understands that she has pancratic cancer to a degree but she doesn't know thatit has spread to the liver. I am just taking it day by day getting my houorganised for when she comes down here for me to look after. I think it of this way she looked after me while I grew up it is now time for me to look after her.

Patches
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Taking each day at a time can be the best option.  Try to not get concerned that your mum doesn’t know the cancer has spread beyond her pancreas, lots of Oncologists do not tell patients the stage or estimate time left as this only causes upset and stress for everyone.  Staying positive is the magic key.  Hoping your mum is discharged from hospital soon.  Does your mum know she is coming to live with you when she leaves hospital?

 

 

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lin78
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Thanks Patches. We all got a surprise on friday to here mum was coming home  she was to stay with my younger brother and come down here Monday but she come here Friday night. She is fine staying with  me. We now have to wait to get a appointment  to see someone at the gold coast hospital to discuss treatment. 

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Patches
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That is great news that she is home with you!!  One of the hardest things now is the waiting but the day of the appointment will come when it is meant to.  Do you have a specialised cancer hospital near you or is there a cancer day ward attached to your local hospital?

 

My suggestions for you until you see the specialist is take each day as it comes ...... if there are things your mum likes to do then try to do them ..... let your mum take the lead about discussing her cancer as much as possible.  Important thing to discuss with your mum is how much she wants to be told plus is she ok with you asking questions, including asking questions without her being present.  At first my husband wanted to be the only one to ask questions ..... after a couple of months he was happy for me to ask questions without him present but he didn’t want to know what info I was given.

 

main thing is continuing to take one day at a time and enjoying life as a family.

 

take care

always here if you like to chat. 

 

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