due to his treatments my late husband also had issues with food intact.   the dieticians at the cancer treatment centre at the local hospital were wonderful.  We spoke with them few different times and each time the dietician came up with new ideas and thoughts.     One of the things that the dietician did recommend was milkshakes using either Ensure or Sustagen .  through the dietician we were given some sample packs which were similar size to average tetra packs.  Dieticians we dealt with advised they could authorise the purchase of the tin of powder which would be cheaper than purchasing it ourselves direct from local pharmacy.   The staff at the hospital where my husband had his chemo treatments were always happy to answer any questions from patients plus family members.  I would recommend you talk to the staff where your husband has his treatment and ask for their assistance with referral to speak with dietician. ... View more

I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  my husband had chemo for few months which didn't work for him and he eventually decided to cease having chemo.  from my perspective it is a very personal choice whether to decide to have treatment or not.  I said similar to my husband and reassured him that I would fully support him with what ever decision he made.     with my husband deciding to ceasing having chemo we were not given any other treatment options.  the oncologist advised he would happily see my husband for regular appointments to check results of blood tests and organise for day stay in oncology ward for top of anything etc potassium.  it also meant for my husband that he got to spend more time at home that he had been.  few days after each chemo treatment he was having to be admitted back into hospital for approx 1 week due fluid retention or infection/s.   my workplace offers a counselling service that is accessible by staff and their family members.  may be check if your counselling service through your work is able to assist your daughter.  another possible option is seeking assistance through social worker at your local hospital.     thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs ... View more

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mum.  sending you my love and lots of hugs.  first few months after my husband passed away I felt like I was getting on starting a new way of living without him and all of a sudden one day the pain of missing him hit me and I started grieveing for him again.  I say again as I know I was grieving during his last few months.   It is now just over 18mths since I lost my husband, I still miss him and I probably always will.  I lost my mum (not to cancer) approx 15 years ago and I will always miss her also but the days get easier over time and things doesn't hurt as much.  I find there are days or things that are emotional triggers, I now try to look on these as times when I remember the good times and allow myself to cry if I want to. Take care of yourself  ❤️ ... View more

Hi Juleforti, couple of months after his diagnosis of pancreatic cancer my late husband used to get quite angry at times.  Over time he took more and more of his anger out on me.  Nurses in oncology wards were great and explained that a lot of cancer patients get anger for lots of different reasons.  Side effects of chemo can cause these reactions as Budgie mentioned.  Feelings of not being in control of the situation and feeling scared were 2 reasons my late husband used to get angry.   Having some one independent to talk to can be very helpful and quite often is provided for patient plus family members.   hoping all goes well ... View more

Purpleheart23, I have had no contact with my step son during this entire year.  I have a lot of cousins in the town I live in and have been able to spend some times and days with some of them.  This year my own general health has not been good and I have had to have some medical treatments.  I am still physically recovering from the most recent medical treatment, specialist is happy with my progress.  I ... View more

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.  Have you thought about talking to social worker - they can be great to t all to and may be able to do referrals to different businesses for you.     Main important thing is you and your kids being with your family for help and support.  Once your health improves you could start to concentrate on new home for you and your kids.   thinking of you and sending my love. ❤️ ... View more

That is great news that she is home with you!!  One of the hardest things now is the waiting but the day of the appointment will come when it is meant to.  Do you have a specialised cancer hospital near you or is there a cancer day ward attached to your local hospital?   My suggestions for you until you see the specialist is take each day as it comes ...... if there are things your mum likes to do then try to do them ..... let your mum take the lead about discussing her cancer as much as possible.  Important thing to discuss with your mum is how much she wants to be told plus is she ok with you asking questions, including asking questions without her being present.  At first my husband wanted to be the only one to ask questions ..... after a couple of months he was happy for me to ask questions without him present but he didn’t want to know what info I was given.   main thing is continuing to take one day at a time and enjoying life as a family.   take care always here if you like to chat.    ... View more

Taking each day at a time can be the best option.  Try to not get concerned that your mum doesn’t know the cancer has spread beyond her pancreas, lots of Oncologists do not tell patients the stage or estimate time left as this only causes upset and stress for everyone.  Staying positive is the magic key.  Hoping your mum is discharged from hospital soon.  Does your mum know she is coming to live with you when she leaves hospital?     ... View more

Louie, I don’t have cancer but I cared for my husband from his diagnosis until he passed away.  He has 2 sons, one of which had not gotten along with his dad for many years, 1 sister and elderly dad.  After we were given the diagnosis and the initial shock wore off he told me he needed to tell his entire family as they all needed to know.  He told each family member and there was a mixture of reactions from them which was understandable.  Quite possibly it may not be easy conversation but you need to tell your family.  Don’t worry about their reactions, this is your time to be selfish and you are allowed to be selfish and put yourself first.   Sending you hugs. ❤️   ... View more

so sorry to hear about your husband and the changes in his health.  having lost my husband only a short 6 months after his diagnosis I suggest you make a written list of things you both want to do and start to do them as weather, your husbands health etc allows.   does you and your husband have up to date wills?  have you thought about prepaid funeral? pack as much enjoyment into every day.     we are all hear to listen and support. have you and your husband consider making appointment to speak to counsellor or social worker through your hospital for assistance?   Take care, hope to hear from you again soon ... View more