Hi Juleforti, couple of months after his diagnosis of pancreatic cancer my late husband used to get quite angry at times.  Over time he took more and more of his anger out on me.  Nurses in oncology wards were great and explained that a lot of cancer patients get anger for lots of different reasons.  Side effects of chemo can cause these reactions as Budgie mentioned.  Feelings of not being in control of the situation and feeling scared were 2 reasons my late husband used to get angry.   Having some one independent to talk to can be very helpful and quite often is provided for patient plus family members.   hoping all goes well ... View more

Purpleheart23, I have had no contact with my step son during this entire year.  I have a lot of cousins in the town I live in and have been able to spend some times and days with some of them.  This year my own general health has not been good and I have had to have some medical treatments.  I am still physically recovering from the most recent medical treatment, specialist is happy with my progress.  I ... View more

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.  Have you thought about talking to social worker - they can be great to t all to and may be able to do referrals to different businesses for you.     Main important thing is you and your kids being with your family for help and support.  Once your health improves you could start to concentrate on new home for you and your kids.   thinking of you and sending my love.  ❤️ ... View more

That is great news that she is home with you!!  One of the hardest things now is the waiting but the day of the appointment will come when it is meant to.  Do you have a specialised cancer hospital near you or is there a cancer day ward attached to your local hospital?   My suggestions for you until you see the specialist is take each day as it comes ...... if there are things your mum likes to do then try to do them ..... let your mum take the lead about discussing her cancer as much as possible.  Important thing to discuss with your mum is how much she wants to be told plus is she ok with you asking questions, including asking questions without her being present.  At first my husband wanted to be the only one to ask questions ..... after a couple of months he was happy for me to ask questions without him present but he didn’t want to know what info I was given.   main thing is continuing to take one day at a time and enjoying life as a family.   take care always here if you like to chat.    ... View more

Taking each day at a time can be the best option.  Try to not get concerned that your mum doesn’t know the cancer has spread beyond her pancreas, lots of Oncologists do not tell patients the stage or estimate time left as this only causes upset and stress for everyone.  Staying positive is the magic key.  Hoping your mum is discharged from hospital soon.  Does your mum know she is coming to live with you when she leaves hospital?     ... View more

Louie, I don’t have cancer but I cared for my husband from his diagnosis until he passed away.  He has 2 sons, one of which had not gotten along with his dad for many years, 1 sister and elderly dad.  After we were given the diagnosis and the initial shock wore off he told me he needed to tell his entire family as they all needed to know.  He told each family member and there was a mixture of reactions from them which was understandable.  Quite possibly it may not be easy conversation but you need to tell your family.  Don’t worry about their reactions, this is your time to be selfish and you are allowed to be selfish and put yourself first.   Sending you hugs.  ❤️   ... View more

so sorry to hear about your husband and the changes in his health.  having lost my husband only a short 6 months after his diagnosis I suggest you make a written list of things you both want to do and start to do them as weather, your husbands health etc allows.   does you and your husband have up to date wills?  have you thought about prepaid funeral? pack as much enjoyment into every day.     we are all hear to listen and support. have you and your husband consider making appointment to speak to counsellor or social worker through your hospital for assistance?   Take care, hope to hear from you again soon ... View more

Hi LizJessie, thinking of you and hoping you are ok.  How are you and your partner going?  Have doctors been able to provide you with information about your partners health?  Big hugs sent your way.   ❤️ ... View more

Sorry to hear about your mum lin78.  My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October 2019, it had spread to his liver prior to diagnosis.  Sending my love to both you and your mum.  ❤️ ... View more

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