Many times I have experiences anniversary grief. There were many firsts to get through, All our anniversaries, first time we met, moved in together, exchanged rings, got engaged. Every Tuesday ( he died on a Tuesday night) felt like a resurgence of grief and sometimes it was so severe I thought I couldnt take it anymore but I took a deep breath, told him I loved him and took a baby step. Now I still get anniversary grief but i am learning to deal with it slowly. They say the first year is the worse but I have found that heading into the second year is nearly as bad. It is 16months since I lost my husband to bowel cancer and we had no time to prepare for the outcome. I know I am not the only one going through this and i am making steps forward, every now and then I go backwards but I am getting there, I didnt think I was going to get there for a while but I am just taking it one day at a time. Cant go round it, over it or under it so I guess I just have to go through it. We are not alone in this new life that we didnt choose Jill
Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.