Hi,
I agree with Freddelo. I am of the belief that doctors and oncologists almost HAVE to give you worst case because if it was the other way around and they told you a year when it was 6 months, they could be done for misconduct or whatever legal name its called! I have heard soooooooo many stories of people outliving diagnosis by years! My Mum was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung and was given a year. 5 years with a mix of chemo and immuno! They made her sick in the end (no body can withstand that much crap) but we were all 'ready' as can be to say goodbye. It was the hardest thing ive ever done and will most likely be the hardest thing you will do.
Know that you WILL get through it. He would want you to. He wants to see you smiling, not crying so do your kids. So cry in the shower, in the car but make the time you have with him and the kids the best it can be. Try pushing the pain aside. It's amazingly hard but if you let it drown you, you will find living unbearable. Distractions are good too! My dog helps, music, gardening or any repetitive tasks (I organized the pantry for the 1st time). Don't be hard on yourself and think you 'can't' handle it, you can its just very, very hard!
Take care and here anytime..youre never alone.
kazu
PS I've rung the hotline number above twice now and it says to leave a message!! I am going through my husbands cancer (for the second time) 2 months after losing my precious Mum. I am seriously drowning in grief and there doesn't seem to be ANYONE to talk to - wheres this 'cancer connect'!!! Hotline?? Freakin Cold line. Not impressed.
