Hi Kevin, I'm a former carer and like most Aussie blokes, have always been a fairly big drinker (more then what your currently consuming). After I lost wy wife to cancer it probably magnified the situation even more and started to take a heavy toll on my own health. The medical profession naturally frown on this and expect you to drop to no more then two drinks a day which is nowhere near enough for the average Aussie and can cause you to feel even more depressed as it's another unwelcome change to your lifestyle. I changed to drinking light beer and with some help from a Gastro specialist I was seeing at the time who set me some more realistic reduction goals, I have been able to reduce my consumtion considerably. The light beer takes a little bit of getting use to but still allows you to partake in some plessure but it's much easier to have a few and then stop unlike full strength which as you know, once you get the tast, they go down very easily. I soon found other activities to fill the void and I have read one of your other posts where you want to get involved with the cancer council and to help others. That's a great way to focus on other things and help you reduce your consumption. I still love a beer, have lost 40kgs and have found many other things in life to enjoy. Good luck with your ongoing treatment and to your family. Regards Gaffo
Hi Kevin, It's great to see you back on line. Great news about the results from the surgery, a big relief I bet. You know you have been through a hell of a lot & drinking maybe helping you 2 deal with everything. Maybe you could find out if there is a support group close by to you where you could meet with people face to face & to talk & see how they're coping. When I was told I had cancer the first thing I did when I got home was light up a cigerette!! I know that was terrible but I was stressed & hey we all have our vices, I'm not smoking anymore, but I can understand where your'e coming from. Did you say you were going to have more chemo? maybe you wont feel like drinking once you start. I found I reached a stage probably about 12 months after treatment ended where I started to really take care of myself, eating really well and getting more exercise you are not even at the 2 month mark yet. So I wont preach to you about taking care of yourself & we dont judge here just offer each other support. You should try and give yourself the best chance at a full recovery though so I think it would good for you to find a good support group close to home or maybe through your hospital, you can always send me a message if you need some support or just someone to listen. you could call 1800 811 994 (24 Hour) tassie, I just googled it. Best wishes to you & Donna for the birth of the baby. Butterfly
Hi Oldman' I think it can become something we need so as not to think about everything! I can drink a bottle of bacardi in 3 sessions and not feel any effects. I also think that we feel,what the heck...we've got cancer,so what does it matter what else we do????? I keep you in my prayers......good luck with everything
I've been sitting here catching up on everyones posts pondering if I want, need or should write about this subject. But after reading I figure this is the place to share.I have always been a beer drinker but over the past few weeks I have been consuming around 48can a week! Why am I doing this, well not sure really I think some of the reasons are:It is helping me wee so much better (still having some trouble in that area)I feel a bit indestructible after surgery But really I'm not sure why I spoke to a Social Worker last week who has put me in touch with a drug and alcohol counsellor. Because it is Easter I have to wait until Wednesday to contact them.This is not a panic thing yet but I do not want to become dependent on drinking, plus spending $80.00 a week on grog is a total waste of money we do not have.I'm still not sure if I want to post this I know I will not be judged so what is the problem?oldman
Kevin, I hope you and your family are having a wonderful Easter and that Donna is doing well (those last few days are tough). I read your post last night and went away to think about it. Maybe what I discovered about myself about 8 years ago may help. I walked out of a meeting at work, really angry about the instructions I had been given by my boss. Walking into the kitchen I immediately thought 'Sod him. I'll have a piece of chocolate cake and that will fix that'. Epiphany - I realised that I generally swallowed my anger - literally. And now that my husband has bowel cancer I find that more wine than I should is often my solution - thanks for the wake up call because maybe I am really angry!! And, oh yes, and we really could do more with the money too. Take care, Christine
Thank you to everyone,your support on this has helped me greatly. I have someone I can ring tomorrow (wednesday) and talk to.I'm feeling quite sick at the moment so I have not had that much to drink.I think Butterfly is right as I get more into my treatment I will lose the taste and desire to consume too much. This happened when I was having radiation treatment.Thanks again it means so much.Kevin
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