Hi, I have had an ileostomy for 10 years. I think (from my own experiences - 4 huge bowel ops) that it takes time for the body to settle back down after a bowel operation. Hopefully they have sorted out the problem by now and things have become more stable. I have found that the first 2-3 months is probably the worst time, and then things seem to improve a lot faster. Of course, we are all different and our bodies all heal at different times and in different ways, so everyone's experience can be a lot different. At least your partner is in the best place to sort it all out, don't be afraid to ask questions of the surgeon, doctors and nurses and my only other advice is to hang in there yourself and just have patience. These ops are huge and the body is put under a lot of trauma with them so I think that they can take time out for healing. Doesn't help much, but good luck with it all.
Craftyone