Hi Mrs Elton
That is really good advice and I am sorry that your husband hasn't yet had that conversation with you.
When my mother was dying, it was before my cancer diagnosis, we were able to have that conversation. So we knew the readings she wanted, the music she wanted, so we knew that when we had the funeral, we were carrying out her wishes. It made it a lot easier.
So several years ago, when I was going in for a fairly minor operation, it still involved a general anaesthetic, my wife asked me to write down what I wanted, I did and she did the same. They probably need a bit of updating as times change, but the core is there. Similarly after her father died we were able to discuss if we wanted to be buried/cremated and where that would be. So I can recommend it. Ditto wills and power of attorney.
So I hope that conversation occurs for you - if not then try and spread the load a bit with the rest of the family.
Best wishes
Sailor
For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one. Kahlil Gibran