The last several years, my mum had bladder cancer. She's had several blocks of treatment and now has the all clear, and is coming up to the last few months of "preventative" chemo. So she's lucky. Yet I'm still traumatised by the whole thing. I'm 46 and live at home with mum, who is 77 now. Small little things set me off. Today it was a reminder about putting a script in and earlier a phone call to book the next chemo. Practically, it's not stressful, but for some reason, my mind magnifies every little thing medically related to the point that I'm sick of it. Do other carers get this feeling or is just me? I'm so sick of urologists, oncologists, chemo, hospitals, biopsies, cystoscopies, etc. I know I'm not the patient but it's like I have a form of PTSD associated with when she got first diagnosed and especially considering dad passed away with cancer almost 7 years ago now. It has increased my panic attacks, insomnia, irritability, etc. and this then makes mum more anxious, causing a vicious circle. And there is no tolerance now on her behalf of the struggles that I go through each day when these occur, often with her causing them. She's just sick of them. We both just want a free mind. Is this asking too much?
Hi @David76 ,
I'm sorry to hear of your Mum being sick, but glad to hear she is better now.
When we go through traumatic experiences, all of these experiences can sometimes just add up to the point where we just need some help.
I don't think you're asking too much, so I'd suggest it would be a really good idea to seek out some counselling. We all need a bit of help from time to time.
I hope you find some relief.
Hey David. Don't beat yourself up. You and your mum have been through a lot. Cancer is horrible for everyone and it takes a while to get over it. You have been there for your mum through her journey with cancer and that is fantastic. You need a bit of time to be yourself and I hope that you get it. Be proud of yourself David, because I am proud of you.
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