New father’s likely myeloma diagnosis

[Margot23]

Hi all,

I am a first time poster.

My wonderful partner, 48, was told he likely has myeloma this week. He will have a bone marrow biopsy later this month, which is when we will know for sure.

We have a 13-month-old son.

My partner feels physically well and this was only detected because his mum and I encouraged to get a blood test because he has a family history (father) of bowel cancer.

My partner is a very pragmatic person, and is very positive. However, a month ago he suddenly lost his job and last week I started a new full time job, my first job since having our son.

I feel like I am crumbling under a wave of grief, shock and anger, but I am trying my best to not show this too much to my partner and adopt his positive mindset.

I guess I don’t have any real questions, I am just hoping to connect with others who are walking the journey of cancer.

Thanks,

Margot

[Richard1]

Cancer is a blessing and a curse. It opens your eyes up to what’s really important in life. It sucks going through it, constantly weighing on your shoulders. Dealing with daily life is hard enough. Just take it one day at a time.

I wish you and your family all the best Margot.

[Miranda_ccnsw]

Hi @Margot23 , I'm so sorry to hear of the possible diagnosis your partner is facing. It's such a shock to get any news of cancer - and having a young son makes it even harder. Feelings of overwhelm, grief and anger are very normal and your focus on remaining positive for your partner will help see you through this really tough time and the journey ahead, whatever that may be. 

It's great that you have reached out and shared your news here, the online community is a great, safe place to share how you're feeling and process things.

Here is a resource that may be of help: Emotions and Cancer.

You can also reach out to our team of health professionals on 13 11 20 to ask questions or talk about support options that are available to you.

Stay strong

Miranda 

CCNSW

[Margot23]

Hi Richard,

Thank you for your kind words.

We're still very much in the shock and uncertainty phase at the moment, so one day at a time is definitely the approach we're trying to take.

I really appreciate you taking the time to respond and share your perspective. Wishing you all the very best on your own journey too.

[Margot23]

Hi Miranda,

Thank you for your kind message and for taking the time to respond.

It has been an incredibly difficult and overwhelming week for our family, but it has been comforting to find this community and hear from others who understand what this experience is like.

I appreciate you sharing the resources and support options. I'll be sure to have a look through them and keep them in mind as we navigate the weeks ahead.

Thank you again for your support.

Margot