identical twin with cancer

[tryingtohelp]

Hello, I'm hoping to find someone who has been through a similar experience with twins. My husband (37) is an identical twin, and his brother has stage 4 metastatic melanoma. We've recently been informed his situation is terminal. Identical twins have an incredible bond, and as you can imagine, this news is unfathomable for my husband. I was wondering if anyone has experienced a similar situation, I thought it might be helpful to speak to a twin who has gone through this, or is going through this.  Thank you!

[Katekat]

Hi @tryingtohelp and welcome to the Online Community,

So sorry to hear about your brother-in-law's diagnosis.

I haven't had any experience personally with twins and cancer, but I do have twin brothers, so am very much aware of the incredible bonds twins have with each other. Has anyone here had experience with twins and cancer that could offer some insight?

Here are some resources that might assist yourself and your husband:

• Understanding Melanoma
• Emotions and Cancer
• How can I help?
• Facing end of life

The above are ebooks (pdf format) put out by Cancer Council to assist people with cancer, their families and friends. The Emotions and Cancer book especially might be worth looking at, I know it's a difficult time