I just lost my beautiful partner

[Jodie77]

My partner and I were in love. 

we went out in high school and went our separate ways. We then came back together and it was magical   

He was diagnosed with multiple myeloma the most aggressive type. After many beautiful times together and many battles with hospital visits he took his last breathe Sunday night.  

I am broken I am empty. Honestly I didn’t know what to think. 

I cared for his every needs. I had my jobs like medication and showering and everything thing else to help him be comfortable. 

I'm not sure how I'm going to survive without him 😔💔

[Onetwo1]

 I'm so sorry to read your news Jodie. Sending you the biggest virtual hug I can muster xx

[LindaG]

Hi Jodie, how devastating for you.  So sorry you’ve lost your loved one. Sending you love and prayers 🙏😘. LindaG 

[Karen70]

I am extremely saddened to hear of you losing your soul mate, I feel your pain. It has now been 4 months without my husband and best friend. I continue to experience sudden bouts of overwhelming sadness, at times feeling like I can't function. I am 54 and can't believe I'm a widow and will never see or touch him again. The only advice I can give is to allow yourself to grieve, take one day at a time, there is no time limit, hold your children/grandchildren close as I do mine. My thoughts are with you and your family at this extremely difficult time.

[Jodie77]

My partner was 48. Thank you for your words. It’s still so fresh for me and I’m not sure if I should have written on here already but I need to hear from other people that have or a going through what I am. I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief is hard especially for someone I needed more time with.

If you’re happy to keep in touch perhaps we could help one another.

The emotions are so crazy my head is on a constant spin

[Karen70]

I would be happy to keep in touch, I'm currently experiencing shock and the anger that my entire world has been turned upside down, we had big plans and had been together since I was 17, I now have to learn to be alone

[Jodie77]

It has been 1 week today 💔💔😔😔.
I feel guilty talking about it already but find I need this speaking with someone going through the same thing I know you get it. I have family and friends that don’t get it like we do. It’s hard. It’s just not fair. I’m angry sad so many mixed emotions my head is spinning. Being alone it hurts. I want more touches I want more chats I want more of it all 😔😔💔💔

[Ashley_ccnsw]

Hi Jodie77,

This sounds like such a challenging and difficult time for you. We're all thinking of you during this painful experience. We've heard similar experiences by so many partners and carers, it's heartbreaking.

In terms of support, you're always welcome to contact the Cancer Council on 13 11 20 and get a referral to our counselling service, or we also have sporadic telephone grief support groups for those who have lost a loved one to cancer called Life After Loss.

We're here if you need us. Please take care of yourself.

Ashley

CCNSW

[Jodie77]

it’s been 2 weeks today since I lost my beautiful partner to multiple myeloma . And I’m not good. I think I need help 😔 

[Karen70]

I absolutely feel your pain, anguish and devastation, some advice that i was given is to be kind to yourself, allow yourself to feel the grief and just take one day at a time. Don't be afraid to seek help if you need it.

My husband past away almost 5 months ago and yesterday found myself needing to pull over in to the emergency lane on the freeway due to me sobbing uncontrollably and I continue to do my shopping in a nearby suburb as the fear of bumping into someone I know overwhelms me. I also feel that I will spend the rest of my life in sadness. We have lost our best friend and the love of our life