Lost my life partner

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Lost my life partner

3 weeks ago I lost my beautiful partner Goran to pancreatic cancer.

He rode the pain rollercoaster for 3 years and 3 months. No person should have to endure what he went through.

Drs promised his death would be peaceful and no pain. This wasnt to be... .

Everything went downhill very quickly at the end.

I am one minute beside myself with grief and the next minute numb and in disbelief.

To go from caring for him 24/7  to being alone is terrible.

I know grief is different for everyone but when will this pain become bearable???

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Hi BJO67,

 

I'm very sorry for your loss.  There is a big void after loosing someone you're looking after 24/7.

You asked when will the pain become bearable....  My thought's on that may come across as a bit harsh, but, they're not meant to be...... I think you will only start to begin healing when you decide to get on with living.  Unfortunately, when someone dies, the world keeps going.  Everything keeps moving, & you need to as well.  I'm not saying you can't spend time grieving, but don't dwell on the grief.  Let it come & happen as it needs to, then move on.

 

You have my best wishes.

 

Budgie

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Hi BjO67,

 

When you focus all that energy into one single purpose and your life enjoyful evolves around it - the sudden loss of that devoted mission is usually emphasize by the love that was lost. As budgie previous mentioned - time and routine are your friend. The pain will ease and attachment will succeed through  to memories.

 

Let us know how your going?

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Thankyou.

I am trying to keep busy with the day to day things....

Im due to start back at work the first week of Nov. I have mixed feelings about that.

I work in a hospital and feel quite traumatised by hospitals at the moment.

Will just have to see how things go....

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Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

Hi BJO67,

 

Still a few days to go to get comfortable with the general idea, by any chance is a temporary change in department possible?  Or perhaps working in a more professional format will provide a much needed distraction or comfort?

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Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

Probably not unfortunately...

I just need to find a job outside of a hospital setting.

In the meantime ........

Thankyou for your messages.

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Re: LoRe: Lost my life partner

Of course, please let us know?

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