Hi Kylles,
Welcome to the mad, crazy world of cancer. It will become easier to deal with later, but you have a long horrid path to travel yet, (Sorry everyone but it is true) we have all (mostly) been on that path and are at various points along it now.
Ask questions, vent, cry, do whatever you need to on here, this is a safe place for you to say anything and ask anything.
I know that these first few weeks are the hardest to deal with, you have no idea what you are facing yet, let alone how to cope.
Try to take it one step at a time and deal with those problems first, easy for me to say, very difficult to do but from my experience the only way I can cope is try to not look too far forward and be in the day.
I have stage 4 bowel cancer, not sure if I can be of much help to you but if you want please feel free to send me a private message if there are things you want to ask. You will find lots of people on this site who can offer lots of ideas and thoughts.
best wishes for you and your family
Deb