Hi Clo,this is such a scary time for you,and I really hope they can help your hubby while he's in hospital.One thing that helped me was taking Gavascon before I ate.Speak to your dr and tell him you want to know everything,whether it be good or bad it is worse not knowing because then the imagination takes over. Be strong,my prayers are with both of you. margro...i do know how you feel,i was diagnosed 3yrs ago with stge 3 pancreatic cancer ... View more

Hi Clo,one thing i have found that helps get the food down,is to graze.Small things several times a day(lots of pasta). I know how scary it is at the moment,but try and hang in there! Have you contacted the cancer council?They may be able to put you in touch with a support group in your area,also their telephone support groups are great,and you are talking with people in the same situation as yourself,Margro ... View more

Flee hi, I'm so glad you've found somewhere to vent!!We all need it at times. I was diagnosed in Aug 05 and I have some idea on the burden on the family.I honestly think my diagnosis was harder on my family than it was on me!! Hang in there,just know you are storing memories with your mum that the others are missing out on.Ask your mum questions,get to know what she was like as a kid etc.Have quiet times,just one on one. I know you will be there for your dad,but don't do too much..maybe he wants to do these things for your mum.He needs to feel like he's doing something.Most men  his age have been the main "provider"for the family and I bet he wants to still feel like he can do that now. This is all just  my opinion and I take no offence at all if you disregard the lot!!!Just don't disregard this...you are doing a wonderful job. Margro ... View more

Hi Flee,my heart goes out to all of you! As a carer,have you been to the carers forum?Sometimes it's a lot easier to vent(and not feel guilty!!!!!!!)if you chat with people in the same situation. As far as your mum's weight loss,I went from a size 10 to a size 4.Way I look at it,you can never be too rich or too thin.....still waiting to get to the rich part! God bless you and keep up the good work!!!! ... View more

I don't know if this is of any help but when i was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer,the last thing i would have needed would be another person to worry about how they would cope with my death! you have a very new relationship and i am not taking away from how much you want to help but i turned away from even my sister at that time.write him a letter,visit for short times but don't crowd him.this is a scary time and he needs to worry about himself,not how he may have hurt you. i hope that is of some help and bless you for caring ... View more

Hey Mollie,it's great to see we must have the same sick sense of humour!!!!!! I have been having a very bad week and that made me laugh and think 'what the hell at least I can find a loo so life can't be that bad!'.Love the idea of making a special day of loo visits although I think I would send an advance team to make sure the ambiance is just right!!!!!!! How's the parents at the moment? Keep up the good work,Margro ... View more

Thanks Mikey!!!!I'll download and print off a location map!!! I appreciate the fact that you just made me laugh,thankyou!!!! ... View more

Jan,have to admit that I'm unique!Not sure if that's a good or bad thing but what the hell......at least I'm still here!!!!!Doesn't bother me that much unless it's one of my bathroom days and I have to use a public loo cause I'm out!Think 3 Maccas close their doors when they see me coming now!!!!!! Way I figure it,better that than something else! Margro ... View more

Jan,welcome!So great to see a long term survivor. I know this is an indelicate subject,but I find since my op I can go anything up to 10 days without going to the toilet and then I will spend the next coupla days living in the bathroom.I classify this as my 'new normal'.Is that common to anyone else or is it just my weird body? Well done on your life,Margro ... View more

Hi Mollie, I am so happy to see you had a holiday!You deserve it.I was a bit worried when you disappeaared without a note but that's ok. How's dad? ... View more