Hello Becpaths,   I am so sorry to hear about your situation, I know it has been an month since this thread was posted. But I was wanting to know, how you have been holding up? This clearly stressful event has caused and brought out queer behavior for those around you.  ... View more

Hi there Charlieburman,   CBD oil is currently legal within Australia but with prescription from my understanding. Many people have appraised the item for it's more natural properties, calming effects and analgesic aspects - I have heard many individuals speak highly of this alternative treatment. Positive calming effects without the *high* feeling - it is not considered an psychoactive like alcoholic for example. It is effective as an chronic pain treatment by blocking the messages from getting through. CBD oil is useful from mild anxiety to crippling depression - according to a published study by the Brazilian Journal by Psychiatry. People suffering from social anxiety disorder strongly benefit from CBD. CBD Oil Benefits - The Cannabis Company - https://cannabiscompany.com.au/blogs/news/cbd-use-benefits   Please Note: Hemp Seed Oil which is created from the marijuana's seeds only. Does not have the same medicinal benefits and is not the same as CBD oil. CBD oil is created from the flowers, the leaf and some of the plant's stalk.    Mamamia - Cannabis oil and CBD - https://www.mamamia.com.au/cannabis-oil-australia/   "To get your head around the difference between CBD oil products, which are used medicinally, and marijuana, most often used, erm, recreationally, Weller explained they contain different levels of two completely different compounds."   "There are around 500 compounds in cannabis and they all have some kind of benefit. The two major cannabinoids (compounds secreted in the cannabis plant) are: cannabidiol (CBD) and tetrahydrocannabinol (THC)," he said.   "CBD has medical properties and THC is the cannabinoid that has psychoactive properties - people who use cannabis recreationally will use a product high in THC to experience a 'high'. CBD also doesn't seem to have the same addictive properties as THC. It's not black and white, but you don't have that euphoric effect straight after taking."   Potential Side-effects but everyone different: Changes in appetite Diarrhea Dizziness Drowsiness Dry mouth Nausea Anxiety Bloating Vomiting All of the above symptoms are generally mild and dose-dependent and tend to resolve within 2 to 4 hours. But, it is best to consult a doctor if any of these symptoms are noticed.   Benefits:  https://thecannabisradar.com/cbd-oil/benefits/ Relieve Pain - CBD with THC especially Reduce Anxiety/Depression Sleep Disorders Arthritis & Inflammation Migraines Nausea ADHD Alleviate Cancer-related Symptoms ... View more

Hi Lilly,   I am sorry for the late reply, is he still refusing open communication? Have you managed to get the flood gates going just yet? If not, maybe speaking with someone who is not family related could be beneficial? Maybe a guidance counsellor?   If that is currently not an option then perhaps a more basic option is needed. Simply being there, letting him know that your available to speak whatever, assisting with the small things at home, showing affection such as hand holding, gently pat on the shoulder or even a hug. Showing physical emotionally attachment is a very powerful and comforting thing. ... View more

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Hi Ernest,   Welcome to the forums, here we're happily embrace and stand by the sides of those who need assistance. I really wish to say Happy Birthday and wanted to ask, how it was but unfortunately i couldn't find the correct words. Did you already have your biopsy or are you still waiting?     ... View more

Hi BJO67,   Still a few days to go to get comfortable with the general idea, by any chance is a temporary change in department possible?  Or perhaps working in a more professional format will provide a much needed distraction or comfort? ... View more

Hi BjO67,   When you focus all that energy into one single purpose and your life enjoyful evolves around it - the sudden loss of that devoted mission is usually emphasize by the love that was lost. As budgie previous mentioned - time and routine are your friend. The pain will ease and attachment will succeed through  to memories.   Let us know how your going? ... View more

Hi Rcifredo,   Your husband sounds like a strong and courageous man, especially with such an toilsome journey taken so far. People don't forget about the one's that still travel and fight along the road - the warm smiles are still there, the strength and devotion of loved ones are still there and the endurance of doctor's advice is still there. This is not forgotten. This is never forgotten - especially when in hospice, it's understandable how the celebration of remission can overshadow the long and difficult fight. Remember you not are kicked aside for you have your family and friends with you. You can always endure to get an first, second and third opinion for your husband.   Do you have relatives who can look after the children? Have you sourced the cancer council advice?   I know it's been a week since you posted but do you have time to advise of your situation? ... View more

Hi Tania10,   That's...unbelievable heartbreaking...i'll get right to the recommendations I think.    I am not sure what state you are currently in but the Australian Government Department of Health regulates therapeutic medicines containing cannabis through the Therapeutic Goods Administration. So apparently in Queensland all doctors can prescribe S4 cannabidiol (CBD) without Government approval. (Schedule 4 is just a classification - it's defined as drugs with have low risk potential for abuse or dependence).  So going to your local hospital with proving documentation of your father's condition might obtain you some. Cannabidiol is good for anxiety, movements disorders, chronic pain and cognition. So CBD Oil might be effective? I hear people say that it is effective. I think going with the CBD (cannabidiol) is a more natural approach.   https://www.qld.gov.au/health/conditions/all/medicinal-cannabis - Queensland Government site - Medicinal cannabis treatment. If you're not in Queensland, this site could redirect you to the suitable area or at least provide some helpful information regarding the drug.   You can try for an higher level of benzodiazepines - They slow down the brain's central nervous basically. So SIV such as Ativan (lorazepam) - this goes under the tongue and melts away, it acts quite fast. It is primary used for anxiety and depression but pain management as well sometimes. Valium (diazepam) it's used to help lesser intense panic attacks and considering your father's current condition, the addiction risks probably won't be an major factor. Clonazepam (klonopin) is another commonly used treatment for cancer patients, tho it is also used for controlling seizures and nerve pain, multi-use. All will cover some level of pain, some more than others.   There are a lot of drugs out there and different drugs treat different pain. Soft tissue pain, nerve pain, bone pain and etc. Sometimes taking 2 or 3 types of medication is required to treat each one. but I would still recommend the more natural CBD one. It treats inflammatory and nerve pain as well. But that's just my two cents - remember to ask your treating doctor for recommendations.   The general rule with benzodiazepines: The more you take, the less your there.  Meaning due to the side effects like drowsiness, grogginess, confusion and etc, they may not be completely aware or alert. But sometimes it's necessary.  ... View more

Hi Piddock07, That's quite the unfortunate predicament, with many family dynamics going on within the background. Well let me first say that it doesn't really change anything if the sister doesn't consider you part of 'her family' as you have already integrated into the family via marriage and children. Honestly one can say that she isn't part of "your" family, so don't let that particularly comment dislodge your image of where you realistically stand. You are one of the major backbones, she is just showing her unique personal colourings and let me ensure you, it's definitely no Vincent van Gogh or Rembrandt. It sounds like your husband is too emotional attached to the mother, to such an unhealthy extent that your general opinion doesn't hold much sway compared to hers - please do correct me if I am wrong and apologize in advance. If your husband is troubled by previous childhood events and is letting this regrettable trauma influence certain relationships, which in turn allows the mother to persuade her son for certain goals then I suppose something needs to break that cycle. But avoiding escalating conflict should be one of the key perimeters when approaching this matter with your husband - showing strong emotions will only make the situation worst and could even push your husband back from listening to you. Be proactive and not reactive. A discussion with your husband will need to take place and clear examples for his mother's behavior pointed out, without being structured as petty. E.g. While I do respect and admire your love for your mother, I sometimes feel as if my opinion is being overshadowed by hers. E.g. I feel that some of her previous actions are having more negative affects to our family and that we may need to sometimes distant ourselves from these outcomes. Have less direct involvement but you can still provide some emotional support of course as long as it's not breaking any set boundaries. Remember you don't need to be friends nor even like your mother-in-law; it's just more ideal if everyone does get along. It seems like clear boundaries and emotional/physical distance will be require, make sure your spouse knows it's okay to maintain a bound with his mother without involving you as long as anything like financials or plans are passed through you too. Either way something needs to change, he needs to listen - this is both for you and your daughter. A counselling session may even assist but I would avoid involving your daughter too deep in this, children are very impressionable things and do tend to blame themselves for whatever occurs. They are good at finding ways to do. But....if he doesn't listen and you have tried everything within your power... then maybe...perhaps considering an separation might be in order. It will be difficult at first but could avoid dealing with more dramas directly in the future, it all depends as nothing is certain.   As for the 'Colourful Sister', she shouldn't be exposing your family or daughter especially,  to any illicit drugs and if she does, may I recommend prohibiting her from seeing your child until she realizes this is not acceptable behaviour and can endanger your child. If this is an issue with your partner highlight this concern with him, it is not a big ask by means. It is an basic requirement - it's all about what environment you wish to create for your child. You deserve to be treated with respect and if she cannot achieve this simple task then maybe distancing yourself could be ideal. Have you considered looking up techniques with dealing with toxic mother-in-laws? I'll show some example, just in case. https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/mate-relate-and-communicate/201311/how-handle-your-monster-in-law - Psychology Today - How to deal with an monster-in-law https://toxicties.com/toxic-mother-in-law-signs/ - Toxicties - Toxic mother in law signs https://www.quora.com/How-would-you-handle-a-toxic-mother-in-law-sister-in-law - Quora - How would you handle a toxic mother in law sister in law - Someone's personal experience   Please let us know if you have tried these approaches or how it generally proceeded. Many people have dealt with these situations before, it is not uncommon.  ... View more