Great to hear Colin and thanks for taking the time to respond. I appreciate your thoughts.   I got where Sch was coming from, as I do with you.  I-read a lot of the posts & take inspiration from quite a few. I guess it’s an attitudinal thing.   Thanks for your thoughts & all the best with your ongoing treatment....Lindsay ... View more

Thanks for the update Debbiev.  It’s sounds like there might be a little bit of a turn around. Your friend is making the first step to a friendship rebuild. GOOD.   I hope it works out well, for you. A little COVID rest, can’t be a bad thing, take advantage of that.   Best wishes & good luck with your friend.   Lindsay ... View more

You put it very well mel741, it SUCKS.   I am the father of a 27 year old daughter. My Rebecca was 23 when she lost her mother, best friend and greatest supporter to cancer. We sit together sometimes and talk about the funny things that blessed our lives, the 3 of us. Always ending in tears.   Those tears a free flowing now, as I read the horrible pain I can feel in your words. Shocking story. I said in a post on this site once before, there is nothing to match the bond and love of a mother & a daughter. Even when they argue, they love. I witnessed that 1 st hand.   I have nothing to add that will remedy your plight, but I can give you, your father (who must be going through hell), and your family, love and best wishes. I hope mum is able to leave us peacefully and with you all by her side.   Stay strong Mel, your a great daughter. That’s how I feel anyway. ... View more

Hi Shelby 40, Tough being cooped up isn’t it. If your able to get out for a walk, without being in contact with anyone, to my way of thinking it’s being isolated from threat anyway. So long as you don’t come into contact with anything & one. I maybe wrong, often am, but that’s the way I see it. Good luck....Lindsay ... View more

Hi Bryan,   So sorry you’re treatment is knocking you about.   I’m not a religious man, but will think of you and wish you all the very best during the rest of the radiation treatment ahead.   I really hope you come through this as best as cured as possible and the discomfort is behind you. It sounds as though you have a great team working on that outcome.   Take care Bryan, you have a great attitude and that positivity alone should see you well. That’s what I hope anyway.   Cheers.......Lindsay ... View more

Hi Debbiev,   It sounds as though your spreading your wings and getting on with life, great. Do more of that. Meet new and interesting people who you can take diversions from. Another focus other than cancer is healthy.   Regarding your fair weather friend, who in fact is not a truly close friend. If she were a truely close friend, she wouldn’t make you feel bad, even when you do. I agree with the posts from Budgie, Nicola 1 and KJ , your friendship with this friend isn’t dependent on how you deal with her & her feelings. A friendship is a 50/50 partnership of give and take. That DOES NOT MEAN you give & she takes.   I think you pretty much have this locked away anyway. Your going out, good. Your making new friends, great. You have taken a stand on your appearance excellent.   what is important, is getting healthy, taking a positive stand on your life and being with people who lift you up and not those who bring you down.   Good luck and all my best wishes.   Lindsay ... View more

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Hi Budgie,   Nothing doing treatment wise for me on Monday. Leaves my head clear to think about your cataracts and their removal. I’ll do just that, with my fingers crossed. Good luck, not that you’ll need it.   Lindsay.     ... View more

Hi Zen1993,   WOW, I really am at a bit of a loss. I take it from your handle, 1993 is your birth year. If that’s so, your whole sad situation is closer to me than you can imagine. My only daughter Rebecca was born in June of that year. Her mother, my my wife, passed away in 2016 having fought cancer for many years.   Like you Rebecca was very close to her mum. Isn’t every loving, sensitive young woman who gets through puberty unscathed, close to their mother? I think they are. My wife did everything possible to shield Rebecca from her illness. You see it was just the 3 of us, Maria and Rebecca in the end, we’re like sisters rather than mother and daughter. The had fun, spoke about private “girl” things. They were inseparable.   You have a sister, who I’m sure, if not at the moment, but down the track, will need your big hearted guidance through her adolescent years. That might be a challenge for you, but one you’ll be up for.   At the moment the challenges are here and now. There are a lot of things you need and want to achieve, finishing your education, getting married, (how is your fiancé dealing with this), assisting your mother, as best you can, and then there is dad. How is he going? Do your brothers pull their weight? As young women are with their mum, young men are the same, but different with their dad.   Importantly, all you can be is the best of who you are. Your worried, nervous, scared and overwhelmed. To get the absolute best outcomes all round, you need to be healthy, strong and positive. From a fathers viewpoint, I suggest you eat healthily, get exercise, do dumb stuff with your sister, keep your boyfriend relevant and love your parents. Your siblings will be inspired to be the same, if they aren’t already.   I won’t preach to you, but rather, offer you an anonymous shoulder to lean on. As a group here, you can say anything you want. It is a forum where you’re able to vent, cry and hopefully be happy. We want the best outcomes for you and your mum.   As Budgie said, try to stay positive and get out, breath the fresh air & try to keep a clear head.   Best wishes, keep in touch"............Lindsay ... View more