Hiya WifeyB I think carers often dont realise the impact that cancer or an illness with their husband/partner has on them. I remember what it was like for my mother when my father had a stroke. she instantly lost the man that he was and therefore she instantly started mourning the loss. Of course that was just natural and also the very start of the gamut of emotions she was to go through. I actually asked to see the social worker at the hospital and explained to them that they were looking after my fathers hierarchy or needs quite wonderfully, however, they had forgotten that my mother was one person. That one person was expected to take on jobs (like you) that normally a husband/wife/partner does not have to. You are only one person, so please reach out and get some help. The cc is great and has a few things in place to help out. Speak to a social worker and see what other things you can tap into to make this journey a little easier for you. Good luck. Julie ... View more

Hey Sailor Such a nice thing for you to look forward to ... a visit from the grandies. I dont have any yet, although i have put my order in for some and my son once again rolled his eyes at me. There is something incredibly special about grandchildren and its lovely that you get so much pleasure from them and they from you. Julie ... View more

Hey Cats I have had and given Reiki. Its the transference of universal energy ... so not someone's personal energy that gets transferred. Whether you believe that or not it is a great relaxation therapy and i dont know anyone that doesnt feel great after reiki. 🙂 When you first finish your reiki you will feel quite groggy and a little disoriented. You just sit and drink water and that soon passes and then you feel fantastic. Most people comment on how well they sleep the night after a reiki session. It is interesting when i give reiki as i can often feel problem spots that people have. If you told me all of this before i did it i would have laughed and was very sceptical until i had some reiki done on me and my muscles started doing things all by themselves. Hope you enjoy it if you decide to do it. Julie xo ... View more

Hey Cats I have had and given Reiki. Its the transference of universal energy ... so not someone's personal energy that gets transferred. Whether you believe that or not it is a great relaxation therapy and i dont know anyone that doesnt feel great after reiki. 🙂 When you first finish your reiki you will feel quite groggy and a little disoriented. You just sit and drink water and that soon passes and then you feel fantastic. Most people comment on how well they sleep the night after a reiki session. It is interesting when i give reiki as i can often feel problem spots that people have. If you told me all of this before i did it i would have laughed and was very sceptical until i had some reiki done on me and my muscles started doing things all by themselves. Hope you enjoy it if you decide to do it. Julie xo ... View more

I too read blogs and am thankful for people sharing in here and privately and in my case real life. My heart goes out to those who are not coping with their own diagnosis or having to go through the experience of losing a partner, sibling, parent .......... @ cats ... i think you should remember that miracles do happen as do strange things. I was given a month to live and that was 21 years ago and i am still here. I had an unpredictable cancer but it can also be very deadly, hence the month given to me. Not wanting to offer anyone false hope or anything like that but it does happen. @ samex ... i still cant remember that other brand of shoes ... its frustrating me! lol thinking of everyone Julie xo ... View more

Hugss Jill, that must have been very frightening to experience that with your husband. Glad you have got some help. Thinking of you. Julie xo ... View more

Hey Jo :) It is a tough gig that we undertake ... there is no two ways about that! I think we do fall in heaps when the pressure is off a bit. I know that happens to me. You will rally round again and get back to feeling better. As you have just said, you do need to be kind to you. I often say to people "what would you say to someone else that came to you with your problem?" and the look on their faces when they finally see the difference in the way they expect themselves to be and what they expect from others. It will ease and there is no point stressing ... just be mindful instead and focus on what is here and now. I am fine, thanks. Getting over treatment and my shoulder lump is a torn tendon with arthritus and some calcium build up (or something). I think one of the drugs i have had has had a hand in this one. Seeing as i spent two days sitting on the couch and did the tear. You take care too Jo ... hope you start to bounce again soon. If you do i might have to call you Tigger, cos thats what Tiggers do best! Julie xo ... View more

Hey cats Good to hear you are feeling good ... i bet you are enjoying a break from the chemo. Fingers crossed they will come up with something thats going to kick that cancer in the butt for you. I love choccie too and i thought i wouldnt bother with it again after treatment ... wrong ... i still like it. lol Shocking stuff ... so nice and so fattening. ugh!! Julie xo ... View more

Hey Jo It is great to read of your good news. Dont forget that all the emotional stuff we go through is exhausting, along with the physical. You as a carer would have taken on more and more of things that Rob used to do - it is natural that you are tired. I think its just the combination and part of the process. Gotta love that flaming process. lol Not! You do go through that bit where every little ache worries you whether the cancer is returning. I remember with my first cancer ... i trotted off to the doctor with a sore elbow. He took one look at me and told me to go home. (he was a fantastic gp actually and knew me well by this stage) When i did go to see him with headaches i was sent instantly for a scan. I hope Rob is feeling less hard done by without all his favourite foods. It is hard ... we recover and get to the stage where we are cancer free and then .............. the side effects of treatment really seem to come to the forefront. Keep on keeping on Jo ... its good to hear. :) Julie xo ... View more

Hey Willow How fun for you and wonderful and and and. Go have the best time and as reindeer has mentioned ... have some blackpool rock. Watch the teeth though. lol Julie xo ... View more