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I am speechless, so well said and beautiful. Thank you

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The only thing you can do is be there for him,do not think about measure of time, doctors can be wrong especially when trying to give timeframes. I personally do not want to know how long I have because I believe the brain is very powerful and can make it happen when the doctors said it would. At the end of the day, it is up to your dad how long he can or wants to fight, So spend as much time with him. Do activities that you both enjoy and won't be too hard for him. Talk a lot, give him the opportunity to tell you how he feels if he needs to. Help him sort his affairs out, my mother and I spent a bit of time doing that, she made envelopes with things she wanted to give family, she also told me a lot of our family history which I now have for safe keeping. It is a very precious time you are entering so make sure you spend as much of it as you can with your dad. My thoughts are with you. S

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Hi there, I know where you are coming from about loneliness, although I am better off than you as I do have a few good friends. We only moved back to oz 3 years ago and most of my friends are in NZ ( no I am not a New Zealander but lived there a long time). This is a good site for you to make contacts, if only online, it does help with the loneliness when noone else is available. I think depression is part of the illness and dare say it is "normal". I stayed home all last week because I did not trust myself to drive and it drove me crazy so I feel for you. I hope your treatment will bring you some relief. Feel free to add me as a friend if you want. All the best S

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Hi Amie, To answer your question, no, it will never be the same again, but it can be good. My dad was the strongest as well until cancer took him, my mumthen became my best friend, and cancer took her too. It was very hard but I learned to go on with life, knowing that they are both keeping an eye on me and my family. the next few moths wekks or years will be tough bt you will learn a lot about yourself. Take this opportunity to get closer to your parents and give them your love. Also take care of yourself because you will need to be strong for them. xoxox Sylvie

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Hi Katie, I am myself fighting terminal lung cancer, and I know how hard it is to give up the cigarettes. I think this is just the excuse your parents are using to vent their anger not at each other but at what is happening to them, for your father to have a smoke now will probably not make any difference to the outcome. I got very cross with my husband who had one the other day, and I could smell it. He had it to relive some stress and I understand that as well. Be there for both your parents if you can, because they both need you and make sure you have someone to vent to as well. I wish you all the best and hope you can all find a way to support each other. xoxox Sylvie

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Log onto this page, it tells you all the workshops available: http://www.lgfb.org.au/index.php?option=com_attend_events&Itemid=28 Hope you find one close to you. Sylvie

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The first time I saw my oncologist, he said: " you are going to die, I cannot fix it, I cannot operate. The question is when. What Ican do is make you more comfortable and try to prolong your life".So I have had 2 cycles of chemo 3rd starting Thursday, plus pain drugs and although I have some skin problems , physically I look the same as ever, I still have my hair , I haven't had any significant weight loss and the tumours have shrunk significantly which means the treatment is doing what it set out to do. I think it makes it hard for my family to comprehend that I am sick. I do feel quite well during the week I don't have chemo, just tired a lot, not too much pain, but I am discovering that my body is much more limited in what it can do. I keep having to tell people to slow down when walking as I cannot keep up with them.So yes there are unseen signs that I feel but not much outward ones, which really makes me feel like a fraud. When I read about what a lot of you are going through, I think I am really lucky so far and hope it stays this way, I just wish you all had an easier ride. Reading your stories makes me stronger and a little ashamed about my feelings. I hope I will grow to have your courage. Sylvie

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My heart goes to you, I know what it is like to feel so helpless, both my parents have died of cancer, yes I wanted them to fight, my mother did fight, my father gave up after about ten months. He came to me and told me he didn't want to go on. All you can do is give your dad your love and support in whatever he chooses to do as in the long run, his decision will have an impact on his health. I now have cancer myself and my family has a lot of faith in me and say I am very strong. I do not feel strong and I thought chemo was the most vile thing I ever had to put up with. It turns out I am responding well to chemo, but I have told my family that whne the time comes that I have fought enough, I want them to let me go. I hope they will respect my wishes. So talk to your father and find out what he really wants, and most of all let him know how much you love him. Sylvie

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I will, by the sound of it the word needs to be spread about this programe. Sylvie

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A friend of mine told me about it and made me book in so i am looking forward to it on the 12th April, although I haven't lost my hair yet, might not lose it at all, but I am starting to have some skin problems which I hope they can help me with.

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