Hi @Deb ,    I am so sorry about your husband's diagnosis. It is such a big surgery to go through and to support him through. It must feel so challenging when he is refusing food and not getting out of bed. And I hear that hope you have of just wanting him to get stronger and come home. It can be such a huge load to care for someone with Cancer.    It is great you have reached out to this forum, and perhaps there are others who can share their experience of caring for a loved one?   If you would like to speak to one of our health professionals please know you can call Cancer Council on 13 11 20.    Take care Felicity  ... View more