hi, my partner has leukemia and an inoperable brain tumor along with diabetes, arthritus and osteoarthritus. of late i have noticed a growing distance between him and i and i dont know what to do to fix it. he is still working 7 days a week as well, no matter my concerns about that. To ease things for him, i wouldnt let him see how bad i was feeling or talk to him about it, i tried to stay very strong for him and show a very strong presence. hes my best friend, so i didnt have anyone i could talk to, but always encourage him to talk to me to see how hes feeling. recently i stopped doing that and tried telling him how i was feeling, what i needed from him, our environment and our relationship. i can say that i need to spend more time with him hundreds of times and always gets surprised when i say how upset i am that hes barely here. i only see him max 4 hrs a day and he works nights. today we had a fight, he said that i have been talking down to him for months and i said that i felt forgotton due to the lack of time spent together and with our 2 kids. whenever he is home, its rarely us just enjoying the time together. its about work problems, his immediate family problems, how tired and sick he is feeling. i sit there looking at him while he thinking to myself, why doesnt he hug me anymore, why is he so distant when hes home, why doesnt it feel like an intimate relationship atm, he doesnt feel up to doing THAT but why isnt there any intimacy? i am so sad, all of us are missing out, him me and the kids. please help gypsy ... View more

hi, well, today is a awful day. my fiance has an inoperable brain tumor near the hyperthalamus. he has had so many rounds of radio and chemo, with no result. then about 6 wks ago, he was diagnosed with leukemia as well. we were totally devastated to say the least. he was offered a trial treatment which would treat both cancers. the doses are so high and he has been very sick the whole time.  The new treatment shrunk the brain tumor more than half of what it was. he still has one more round to go before he gets re-assessed and today, thru an unrelated xray, they found a tumor in his knee. He may loose his leg, or the cancer may have spread and i may loose him. He is scared, confused and very depressed and just want to know if he has a chance or if he doesnt. he is still working and i need him to get well, he wants to fight, wants to win, he has alot of resolve. I am trying to convince him to stay at home and look after the kids while i go to work instead, he is so reluctant to do this. it wont make him any less of a man in my eyes. i need help. How do i stay strong for him when i'm utterly destraught and devastated inside? what can i be doing for him every day? please help mel   ... View more