You've been a wonderful support & carer for your Mother in law. My thoughts are with you & your family as you travel the hardest part of the cancer journey. It's not easy to see a loved one slip away, all you can do is be there for her. Hugs to you all. ... View more

Hi Maddie, As time goes by I visit this site less & less but I still remember a lot of the people that were blogging at the time of my husbands illness. Some have passed away & it's sad to know this cursed disease is still taking its toll. My thoughts are with you. ... View more

Hi Maddie, He may only have been a husband for a month but he was in your life for a lot longer than that & always will be. You will miss him as he is part of your heart but eventually time will dull the pain. My husband has been gone 16 months now & there are still times when my heart aches but I mostly think of all the good times & remember all the love we had for each other. You've been so brave, stay strong! Hugs & kisses to you. ... View more

Dear Gypsy, I have been overseas for 5 weeks & I'm so sorry to hear that Les passed away. Your grief in losing a life long partner will never go away, but you will learn to go on with life even though it may seem empty without Les. John was 66 when he passed away on 29th October 2011 we had been married 43 years. It's over 7 months now & I still cry almost daily, sometimes I cry because I'm angry that his cancer was discovered too late to be cured, sometimes because I feel why did I have to lose my husband when all my friends & relatives of the same age still have theirs & sometimes because I just plain miss my husband. I lost my mother to cancer 39 years ago, I don't grieve her loss now but unfortunately I won't live long enough to ever get over the loss of my darling John. My thoughts are with you in our common journey of grief. Take care BJS ... View more

Sorry to hear such sad news, you're right when you say take each day as it comes, start each day with hope. You'll find your loved ones & friends will support you no matter how hard it is. This Xmas we are not buying gifts but donating the money to Cancer research in the hope that this horrible disease will one day be eradicated. My thougthts & prayers are with you. BJS ... View more

Hi Sailor, I had missed your posts, figured you were having a rough time. Glad to hear your results were good so keep sailing on! Regards Barbara ... View more

So sorry to hear of your loss Gail. Cancer is a cruel disease it devestates so many lives. My husband passed away just over 3 weeks ago so I know the pain your are feeling. My prayers & thoughts are with you. Barbara ... View more

Hi Gypsy, Is Les on a Chemo trial? John had conventional chemo every 3 weeks, he always felt bad for about 10 days then the remaining 10 days he felt OK. I guess John was lucky he never vomited even though he sometimes felt nauseated, he was fatigued most of the time. You'll always tread a fine line between diarrhoea & constipation, you'll have tablets to stop the diarrhoea & then other ones to fix the constipation, it's a never ending cycle. We used to time going away between chemo treatments, we'd wait until the lousy 10 days had gone by then head off for a week before the next chemo treatment. We managed to live a fairly normal life for 10 months. He only live another 6 months after that & I guess the last 3 months he was mostly house bound as he didn't have the energy to go anywhere by then. It'll be a hard road to travel for you both, keep supporting Les, I wish you both the very best. BJS ... View more

Gypsy, I can so relate to your story, my husband of 43 years had only been retired for 6 months when he was diagnosed with Osophageal cancer, when we got to see the surgeon he said he couldn't operate as John's cancer was already Stage 4 (the cancer was also in his liver & stomach lymph nodes) we were then sent to an oncologist who arranged for John to start Chemo, I guess we were fortunate because he started treatment just 3 weeks after the initial diagnosis. I've had to give up work to care for John full time, it's now been 14 months & John's still hanging in there. If you need to talk or ask questions you can always private message me & I'll help in any way I can. It sometimes helps to be able to communicate with someone who is experiencing the same kind of cancer. Best wishes to you & Les. Barbara xoxo ... View more